SNeacail
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I'm a little confused. If your love languages are service and quality time why wouldn't you want to spend time with him? Or put another way if your love language is quality time why would you have to force yourself to spend time with him?
It usually wasn't about spending "time" it was usually about sex, and with him always running off someplace else, I was left with the kids, housework and my job, I felt like a single parent. We weren't spending any quality time together. "Acts of Service" is also nearly equal to "quality time" and there was absolutely no acts of service being done. So I usually had to be coherced into sex and the longer I went without, the harder it was to get in the mood again.
His idea of spending time together, was for me to go with him to some meeting or event, where I was left alone to fend for myself most of the time. Not fun and not really time together, so I stopped going.
Its kind of funny I was reading your comment of the "affection" and the loss and..... I just got it. You mean my death... right?
Possibly. So many emotions go through your head when a loved one gets hurt, especially when you start thinking about what could have happened. We tend to, at least I do, re-evaluate some of our own behaviors a little. She may regret not going with you.
You said "she got a better offer". Does she like to ski? For me, I would NEVER turn down a ski trip to go to Vegas, but I would turn down Vegas in a second for a ski trip. My bff is just the opposite, snow is not her thing, but Vegas is.