Imagine your ideal relationships.

My ideal relationship? Long distance, no exclusivity, no long-term commitment, no sex between us (my partner having sex with others is fine and dandy, though, if she wants to). Based on honesty, independence, and mutual respect... A form of "(best) friends with fuzzily defined benefits", basically... and awesomely, that's exactly the 'ship I've been in for the last almost-five years and running. :)
 
I love daydreamy what-if questions.

My ideal...Relationships where I can ask a question and get an answer...even if the answer is "can I think about this one for a little while?" Where I don't feel I'm always instigating the conversations. Where I can be as honest about my affection as I am with my thoughts. And then at the end of the night, be in a cuddle pile. ♡

Note: I originally started the paragraph saying "a relationship..." Then I realized not only can A relationship be like this but that I can have MORE than one and they could ALL be like this! *geeked*
 
My ideal poly situation: my husband and I either sharing a home with the rest of the poly family or being just a house or two away (a plot with a main house and mother in law house would be the best since we'd be in the same place and my husband could still know there is space just his or ours).

I would hope for two children (prefer one with each of my men) and I know my poly sister wants two as well. Plan would be to homeschool them.

I would be a housewife, my poly sister would work from home as a counselor (her work dream), and the three men who like working would.

Now if Elle and NT's relationship lead to marriage another house, 2 more kids to school, and a fourth out of the house worker would be added.

What is nice is this long term and highly committed (including commitment ceremonies/poly weddings for the non legal couples) dream of the future is shared by the poly family.
 
You just did say something.

I don't have an "ideal" relationship, but I'm pretty satisfied with the husband I have right now. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

Although it is nice to know that if one of us ever wants to see someone else, it doesn't mean our marriage is over.

I don't know what my nirvana would be. I haven't found it yet. I love my wife but there is no sexual chemistry.... I don't believe any one person would ever be everything...It is nice to know that if I have an interest in another woman, even sexually, it won't end our marriage. That is my priority....

Our friend Trixie was over visiting us with her daughter. Our daughters are best friends. Trixie is the one who witnessed our open marriage contract. There was a moment of perfection...With Trixie there, her 2 children, my wife all 3 of us keeping the kids entertained, and just talking...we seemed to be good together... I made a comment about it as well...they didn't admit to it, but it felt interesting...Trixie is reading the book, Sex Before Dawn...She would be a good poly partner....

Perfect? Don't know. It maybe worth exploring...
 
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My ideal has shifted. I used to want a big, happy poly family all under one roof or on one property with multiple homes.

Now I question my ability to share a home with another woman. Not completely out of the question, but I just don't know how I would handle it since I'm fairly set in my ways and enjoy having my own domain.

I guess my ideal at this point would still be everyone I care about (and the people my people care about) living in close proximity -either shared property or within walking distance - of one another. I'd love to share a home with Hubby and another partner of mine. I know Hubby is comfortable with this idea for the future.

I think Hubby wants kids, but I don't really want to have any of my own at this time. So, my ideal would include him having a second home with a partner who wants children as well. In theory, with the right person, I could share a home so he wouldn't have to split his time at all and the kids could have both/all (if I'm involved in a parental role) parents more accessible most times. I wouldn't mind coparenting, I just don't want to pass on my shitty genes. I also wouldn't be opposed to adoption, but I don't know that I will ever prioritize having kids enough to make that happen.

Being able to have the extended family network together for holidays, birthdays, occasional game nights, etc. is important to me in the long run.
 
I donno, more then one, at least 1 of each gender...The more the merrier I think.
But gotta get 1 before I get more lol
 
I think my ideal would be a closed V with my as the hinge or a closed triad, all living together. We are VERY new to this though and currently in a poly/mono (ok technically not yet, but will be when I find someone) , so not sure when, or if we would get to this ideal, but it seems like what life "should" be like to me
 
the past...

My husband and I had a serious girlfriend once. The relationship was great, but I did not know it until it was too late. I want that again. That connection, the trio of love that others frown upon. I dont care, I just miss it. I love my husband, and have enough love for a woman as well. And I actually love seeing my husband with another woman, not just sexually. There is something intimate and deep about it.
 
For me, an ideal relationship is not a certain number, combination, set, or type of people, genders, orientations, rules, structures, or connections. Instead, it's defined by how the people involved treat each other. It's above all an emotional environment where everyone feels safe. It's communication without competition, listening without retort, honesty without ruthlessness. It's warmth, support, and laughter. Indeed it's many of the things that I often fail to provide myself. An ideal relationship is something I'll always strive for, though like the speed of light I'll only approach it; not in a million years will I ever arrive.

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." And have standards for the compassionate treatment that you, too, should receive. These are the keys I concentrate on when I try to help build a loving poly household with my two human (and our other two) companions.
 
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Idealism... Is it idealistic?

An "ideal" relationship... Loaded question... I would like to have my husband and him his wife. I would like to be in a close relationship with her and trust/communication/respect between all of us. I would like to see us living under the same roof. I am also not sure how closed I would like this to be. If she or I also met someone we had feelings for and could meld with us, I would like that be an option on the table. Decision made by all parties because it would affect all involved whether it be time or emotion.

That's basically how I feel and well I'm sure it could be attainable with the right people. I have lots of love in me and want to share :)
 
We lived our ideal relationship and life. My wife invited her g/f into our bed in the 5th year of our now 45 year marriage. I bought a 4 bedroom house and we each had our own room and used the spare as a office with three desks and computers. Our girlfriend did not live with us full time because she had a kid and we had none. I would say that she spent about a third of her time at our house and all of the holidays and special occasions. We considered her a wife.

She got married about halfway through our relationship to a cuckold she found on the internet whose ex wife left him for her lover. He was more than happy with the arrangement because his wife was with a stable couple, I am sterile and there was no chance of her running off with one of us. She was wife number two in our home and number one in her own. The best of both worlds for her and us.

Sounds like the story line for a porn movie but it was our life and a great life it was. Since we did not have kids, I had a lot of disposable income and we belonged to private clubs and took 8 weeks vacation a year. I only work 3-4 days a week as I am a partner in my business. Strangely enough, we never had a single problem due to our relationship. No one asked why my wife's best friend always seemed to be at our house and we never volunteered to tell anyone about our sex life. It was none of our business. However, when we vacationed or went out on the town, it was as a threesome and the two ladies made sure that everyone knew that. :) We had a lot of fun shocking straight people in the 70's and 80's
 
Keeping in mind that I'm a polynewbie and just broken up, forgive the "dating ad"...

I guess my ideal relationships at this point in time would involve enjoying a peaceful period with one or two serious partners within a high-fidelity setting. I'd appreciate mentally mature individuals (beyond their wild oats days), any age is fine as long as they think before they act, and have good communication skills. Personality-wise, heck... I don't have a laundry list... Adventure and excitement are just as fine as quiet for me, but I'm beyond exhausted with drama... I love nerds and geeks but can do without the "unwashed antisocial" stereotypes.

I'd like to be friends if possible with any of their partners. I'm not looking for any type of triad, I'm not sure how I'd manage 3 partners to be honest, but if everyone's willing to give it a shot I guess I am open to finding out.

I'm looking for just enough good will within the group to have some kind of harmony, be able to talk things out when necessary.

I don't require any particular living arrangement... just whatever feels good.

My only big caveat... I'm not really bothered by existing children, however there's no way I'd have anyone's child (except through adoption)--ideally we'd be childfree or the family would have older kids already... I don't do well with babies and toddlers and prefer to not be around them.


TL;DR: am looking for something that feels really good... that's it.
 
I don't think I have an ideal relationship. I have certain needs when in a romantic relationship but a structure or number of partners isn't something I think about much.
 
Egalitarian vee

My ideal would be an egalitarian vee where I date a male and a female partner with me as the center. I had something to this effect for about a year. The female partner was married and I had a boyfriend, but it was definitely close to said ideal. This was several years ago. Not sure if I could find a girl who would respect me and my current partner's relationship and be committed to me. There is also the issue of finding someone who would get on well with my current partner as a respected friend, etc.
 
Here to help discover...

Hello! Ideal relationship? I'm doing the mental work to try and figure that out. Joining this forum is an added step that I hope will prove to be helpful. I'm married to a man. I know I want a committed relationship with a woman as well. How exactly I want that to look like? I'm not sure.
 
The ideal relationship is the one I am in now; dating two men who are friends and get along and care for each other. I like our family! We are not perfect, but we try our best. We have lived 2 years long distance with my boyfriend, and some periods lived together all of us.

The only things I wish for to improve things, are my boyfriend to move to or close to my husband and I, and for all of us to have kids (I would like 1-3 kids and have to start soon if that should ever happen). We are working on getting my boyfriend a work visa so he can work and live in my country.
 
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