redpepper
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Today I woke up and spent the day in bed until 2ish (I thought I would add this, in light of recent conversation.) I had sex several times and drank coffee, and forumed, planned, talked and watched Mono play with his phone, all common occurrences. But today was the first time I felt the pull of being lady boss to our household. Up until now, I have felt separateness between our part of the house and Mono's. I don't think I do anymore. I don't think I see household responsibilities as separate anymore either. This was evident in my conversation with Mono.
We talked of the upcoming gardening season and what kind of division of labour there might be between us all. It could go three ways, I think: A. We all work together to get it done so we can all relax and enjoy later, and spend time together. B. PN and I do it all. My time with Mono would be cut, as I would see gardening as a necessity, to a certain point. C. The guys don't do anything and I do it all and no one sees me for the rest of the summer.
When I asked PN what he thought about the garden responsibility coming up he said, "Oh ya, let's get a list going and see what needs to be done and then start somewhere." Mono asked if it was necessary to garden at all and what I would do if someone decided to not help. This is when my list of possible scenarios came in.
I don't know where we are at. Early days yet. I have a show at the end of the month and I won't be all that available for the May 1st deadline we usually keep for planting the veggies. I made a list of what I thought needed to be done and starred what needed doing first. What I starred is also what I don't need to be in on, in case the guys feel like doing it without me. The rest is nitty gritty stuff like weeding. Well, I know what is in the garden and it can wait until May.
So now I am wondering if I have to play the cranky wife, trying to get the men motivated to take responsibility. The thing with these two is, PN has good intentions, but gets sidetracked easily with his writing and "indoor" activities. Mono would rather be riding and watching movies, I think. It could very well be that either I turn into hag wife, or do it myself. I vow to do it myself, without demands and without conversation, just silently traipse outside to do it. See how long that lasts.
We talked of the upcoming gardening season and what kind of division of labour there might be between us all. It could go three ways, I think: A. We all work together to get it done so we can all relax and enjoy later, and spend time together. B. PN and I do it all. My time with Mono would be cut, as I would see gardening as a necessity, to a certain point. C. The guys don't do anything and I do it all and no one sees me for the rest of the summer.
When I asked PN what he thought about the garden responsibility coming up he said, "Oh ya, let's get a list going and see what needs to be done and then start somewhere." Mono asked if it was necessary to garden at all and what I would do if someone decided to not help. This is when my list of possible scenarios came in.
I don't know where we are at. Early days yet. I have a show at the end of the month and I won't be all that available for the May 1st deadline we usually keep for planting the veggies. I made a list of what I thought needed to be done and starred what needed doing first. What I starred is also what I don't need to be in on, in case the guys feel like doing it without me. The rest is nitty gritty stuff like weeding. Well, I know what is in the garden and it can wait until May.
So now I am wondering if I have to play the cranky wife, trying to get the men motivated to take responsibility. The thing with these two is, PN has good intentions, but gets sidetracked easily with his writing and "indoor" activities. Mono would rather be riding and watching movies, I think. It could very well be that either I turn into hag wife, or do it myself. I vow to do it myself, without demands and without conversation, just silently traipse outside to do it. See how long that lasts.