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Old 03-16-2010, 04:38 PM
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Post New and in need of Advice. Vent-ish

Hey all
I'm really new to Polyamory, and pretty much new to relationships in general.
I'm attempting to learn..
I believe I'm in a V relationship. Maybe? >>

My partner and I have been together for about 5 or 6 months. And I guess you'd call me the "home-wrecker". When she first introduced me into the relationship she had already had with her girlfriend, they had been together for about 6 months. This is all really new to all of us, and we still have yet to work out the kinks, like who gets to spend time with whom when, etc.etc.
Now, I really want to make this relationship work, as I pretty much have been in love with my partner for the past 3 years, only now actually.."dating" I guess.
But, I just can't seem to get along with her other partner. It's not that I know nothing about her, I had been going to school with her for about 5 years, and it's not that she's mean or anything. I just cannot seem to get along with her.
To be completely blunt, and I guess rude about it, she pretty much has no personality. And the little that I do know about her, my partner confirmed is really all there is to her. That she's just really simple.
And I guess I have so much personality, that I can't deal with someone with no personality. I just really want this to work, and I know that if I keep up this attitude, it won't. I just don't know how to change it.

Another thing would be, that I find it to be really uncomfortable when my partner wants to be with both of us at the same time. When she wants to hold both of our hands, or hold my hand as she's hugging her other partner, I feel weird. I feel like she should just be focused on that partner, and try not to be with both of us. Is it wrong for me to feel that way? Should I attempt to stop?

Advice plz ;~; I am confused and lost and probably in love.
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