andrei
New member
Thought I would ask if anyone had been in a similar situation and had any advice for me:
I have been with my wonderful partner M for over 7 years now , her and I have great communication and times together. Our relationship has always been open , and for the most part we found it very enjoyable and rewarding.
about a month and a half ago I decided to end my relationship with my other Paramore J, after about 6 years on and off, and many chances. Her inability to communicate honestly & utter lack of disclosure finally proved incompatible with a healthy Poly lifestyle.
I should have made this decision years ago, it would have saved a lot of pain and heartache but these things are hard when you're in love with someone.
now I find myself going through what would be normal breakup angst, but I feel guilty...my rational mind is very glad to be out of what was a bad situation. the drama involved with J was overwhelming and negatively impacted anyone who witnessed it or was involved with It.
I don't feel like I have the right to feel the odd mix of emotions that I do. M is incredibly understanding, supportive and wonderful...we're going to learn from our mistakes and move on. I can talk to her and she helps me through everything...
I guess I'm just having trouble letting go...or maybe just dealing with being alone when M is not around, which is weird, because I used to love those rare occasions when I got time to myself.
I have actually been far more productive than I was towards the end of my and J's relationship. throwing myself into tasks for distraction from my repetitive thoughts
I'm still dealing with a lot of anger and the lack of focus that this brings...the mornings are the hardest, M and I have different schedules. I used to spend every morning with J
I have been with my wonderful partner M for over 7 years now , her and I have great communication and times together. Our relationship has always been open , and for the most part we found it very enjoyable and rewarding.
about a month and a half ago I decided to end my relationship with my other Paramore J, after about 6 years on and off, and many chances. Her inability to communicate honestly & utter lack of disclosure finally proved incompatible with a healthy Poly lifestyle.
I should have made this decision years ago, it would have saved a lot of pain and heartache but these things are hard when you're in love with someone.
now I find myself going through what would be normal breakup angst, but I feel guilty...my rational mind is very glad to be out of what was a bad situation. the drama involved with J was overwhelming and negatively impacted anyone who witnessed it or was involved with It.
I don't feel like I have the right to feel the odd mix of emotions that I do. M is incredibly understanding, supportive and wonderful...we're going to learn from our mistakes and move on. I can talk to her and she helps me through everything...
I guess I'm just having trouble letting go...or maybe just dealing with being alone when M is not around, which is weird, because I used to love those rare occasions when I got time to myself.
I have actually been far more productive than I was towards the end of my and J's relationship. throwing myself into tasks for distraction from my repetitive thoughts
I'm still dealing with a lot of anger and the lack of focus that this brings...the mornings are the hardest, M and I have different schedules. I used to spend every morning with J