LovingRadiance
Active member
Lemondrop-
Is it the activity itself, or is it how you would feel if he did it to you?
I know that there are activities that Maca and I participate in-that GG would NEVER participate in with me. Goes against the very grain of his nature.
At the same time, he seems to be ok with me doing them with Maca.
I wonder if maybe you are struggling with really feeling internally that whatever it is that Easy is doing, it's what makes (shit I forgot her name) ... Asha! Whew. makes Asha FEEL like a woman, feel loved, wanted, needed, safe, secure etc...
If you maybe aren't fully accepting that these things make her feel the way you would long for her to feel?
It's sort of like hte book "The Five Love Languages" (in a somewhat twisted way). Each person has their own love language, if we wnat them to feel loved, we need to give them love in THEIR language...
maybe this is hers and while you intellectually are getting that, you aren't really internalizing it-therefore you still feel like it's humiliating and degrading to her?
Is it the activity itself, or is it how you would feel if he did it to you?
I know that there are activities that Maca and I participate in-that GG would NEVER participate in with me. Goes against the very grain of his nature.
At the same time, he seems to be ok with me doing them with Maca.
I wonder if maybe you are struggling with really feeling internally that whatever it is that Easy is doing, it's what makes (shit I forgot her name) ... Asha! Whew. makes Asha FEEL like a woman, feel loved, wanted, needed, safe, secure etc...
If you maybe aren't fully accepting that these things make her feel the way you would long for her to feel?
It's sort of like hte book "The Five Love Languages" (in a somewhat twisted way). Each person has their own love language, if we wnat them to feel loved, we need to give them love in THEIR language...
maybe this is hers and while you intellectually are getting that, you aren't really internalizing it-therefore you still feel like it's humiliating and degrading to her?