redpepper
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Two or three times a week doesn't seem like enough to someone in NRE. Later its usually enough in a poly dynamic, or at least could be in order to have other relationships. At least that's what its been for me.
I am intregued by what you said Mags. Its a different take on relationships starting to mine. I require full attention at the beginning in order to establish trust and build a relationship to health before opening myself to other options for partners. With Mono that's taken years. I am going at his pace.
I remember when I was younger thinking it was all a rush to settle in. Now I love the journey of creating a relationship. The journey lasts until its done. None of my relationships have ever been done, just changed. Sometimes entirely like my bf in university who choose to lose touch with me. I still think about him, love him and wonder if we will meet again. Its part of the journey to me. I guess it depends on your love style and the particulars of how people invest. It would be worth talking about that with her I think as she could be like me and require full attention when starting out.
I am intregued by what you said Mags. Its a different take on relationships starting to mine. I require full attention at the beginning in order to establish trust and build a relationship to health before opening myself to other options for partners. With Mono that's taken years. I am going at his pace.
I remember when I was younger thinking it was all a rush to settle in. Now I love the journey of creating a relationship. The journey lasts until its done. None of my relationships have ever been done, just changed. Sometimes entirely like my bf in university who choose to lose touch with me. I still think about him, love him and wonder if we will meet again. Its part of the journey to me. I guess it depends on your love style and the particulars of how people invest. It would be worth talking about that with her I think as she could be like me and require full attention when starting out.