Hello, I'm a first time poster here.
I am a married man in a poly relationship in which my wife loves other people and my girlfriend lives with another man, which they also both engage in poly lifestyle. My relationship with my girlfriend has taken a turn over the course of the the last six months that I can not seem to understand. Our schedules have always been at odds which has made the relationship very difficult to sustain from the beginning and has presented many challenges along the way, although we have been together for over two years. In the last six months the distance has grown increasingly, to the extent that the only time I see her anymore is in group situations which I also enjoy but miss the intimate time that was so precious all along. I have doubled my efforts to try to seek more time with her and more communication with her in order to keep the relationship current and valid. In doing this I have somehow triggered a reaction in which I feel she is pulling away from me even more to the extent that my suggestions of having even short communication, such as over a cup of coffee at a place where she will feel comfortable and not as if shes being confronted be me in some way, have concurred responses of, she is open to coffee and communication but will not commit to a time to do so. I worry that perhaps our relationship is already at an end, I am in love with her and have not been able to make that correlation which could be very obvious to someone else. In no way has she told me things are at an end or treats me in any negative way. I simply don't understand why the distance is increasing so rapidly and why when I've made it clear that I'm worried about it, that her response is to let thing linger. I do apologize for the length of this post and welcome any thoughts or insight anyone may wish to post. Thank you.
I am a married man in a poly relationship in which my wife loves other people and my girlfriend lives with another man, which they also both engage in poly lifestyle. My relationship with my girlfriend has taken a turn over the course of the the last six months that I can not seem to understand. Our schedules have always been at odds which has made the relationship very difficult to sustain from the beginning and has presented many challenges along the way, although we have been together for over two years. In the last six months the distance has grown increasingly, to the extent that the only time I see her anymore is in group situations which I also enjoy but miss the intimate time that was so precious all along. I have doubled my efforts to try to seek more time with her and more communication with her in order to keep the relationship current and valid. In doing this I have somehow triggered a reaction in which I feel she is pulling away from me even more to the extent that my suggestions of having even short communication, such as over a cup of coffee at a place where she will feel comfortable and not as if shes being confronted be me in some way, have concurred responses of, she is open to coffee and communication but will not commit to a time to do so. I worry that perhaps our relationship is already at an end, I am in love with her and have not been able to make that correlation which could be very obvious to someone else. In no way has she told me things are at an end or treats me in any negative way. I simply don't understand why the distance is increasing so rapidly and why when I've made it clear that I'm worried about it, that her response is to let thing linger. I do apologize for the length of this post and welcome any thoughts or insight anyone may wish to post. Thank you.