My gf and I are new to polyamory, and I'd appreciate a little input on some issues I've been having, and to see if I'm all alone in this.
First, a little background. My gf and I have been together for 7 years, and are very happy. We decided to give poly a shot about 8 months ago. Mostly it was her idea, but I read up on it, and, at least on an intellectual level, it all makes sense to me.
She met her bf about 5 months ago, and that was okay, but now I'm having some issues. The first thing is they are knee-deep in NRE, and I envy that. I do not fear loss. I know we are solid, but this makes me feel less... everything. Less loved, desired, cared for, etc. I know it's not true, but I can't seem to get past it.
I fear this may be pathological. I have always SUCKED at letting people I am involved with go their own way.
I really hope I can find some advice on a way to work this out, as I will not make her end her relationship, even though she has said she would if I needed that. That would be a horrible thing to do.
So, that's it for the most part. Has anyone else dealt with these feelings? I could sure use some help.
First, a little background. My gf and I have been together for 7 years, and are very happy. We decided to give poly a shot about 8 months ago. Mostly it was her idea, but I read up on it, and, at least on an intellectual level, it all makes sense to me.
She met her bf about 5 months ago, and that was okay, but now I'm having some issues. The first thing is they are knee-deep in NRE, and I envy that. I do not fear loss. I know we are solid, but this makes me feel less... everything. Less loved, desired, cared for, etc. I know it's not true, but I can't seem to get past it.
I fear this may be pathological. I have always SUCKED at letting people I am involved with go their own way.
I really hope I can find some advice on a way to work this out, as I will not make her end her relationship, even though she has said she would if I needed that. That would be a horrible thing to do.
So, that's it for the most part. Has anyone else dealt with these feelings? I could sure use some help.