JameeDee
New member
Update
Hello loyal readers, new friends.
I just thought I'd do a quick check-in and let you know what is going on in the roller-coaster that has become my life...
We are all three doing very well. I think the added pressure of coming out to my mother has whipped everyone into shape - lol
We are all being very protective of "us" right now...and I like it
Well, the rift between my mother and I is not healed, but is better.
She finally wrote me a long email to explain her side. She thinks the 3-person dynamic is a problem. According to her, it will never work, and someone will end up hurt. Also, we are "ruining our children's lives."
So, in a weak, child-like moment, I decided to point out her flawed logic...I returned an email that said, "Hubby and I are getting a divorce. I am moving in with Pinky. Does that make it better?" My thought process was...she would realize immediately that me having only one lover would not fix the problem. AND should know that I would never leave Poppa. Well, that didn't work out so well...
I received a frantic call from my mother while in the Deli of our local grocery. She had just received my email and wanted to know what was going on. I was immediately mad that she believed that email for one second. She said that would make it better for the kids.
Phone call with mom was not pretty in the end. She was crying - I was pissed off - I told her she was over-reacting as We are ALL trying to figure this out. Nobody is moving in with anybody today! I asked her to calm down and assured her we would talk later.
That was Monday. By Saturday, I still hadn't heard anything from her, so I decided to drop-in and see where her head was.
Well, she wasn't crying. After small talk, I asked if she was feeling better. She said, "We're just going to have to agree to disagree." We talked about some other things. Just before I was leaving, I said, "there are some great resources on the internet." She quickly replied, "Oh, I've been there. We just shouldn't talk about it anymore."
yet again
How is that going to help? If I've learned anything from my new relationship...it's that COMMUNICATION is key. Ignoring things you don't like never makes them go away.
So here I am. Mom knows. She is not thrilled. I am trying not to allow her to poison my brain, but she's got a tiny little corner of it. That, I do not like.
So on my way out the door. I give mom a hug. Tell her I love her. She says tell Poppa and B (my son) I said Hi!
It took all my energy not to ask if she wanted me to say "hi" to Pinky, too.
This time, I kept myself in check, and was on my merry way.
Oh boy. Hopefully the next few months will pass uneventfully and she will chill out.
Hello loyal readers, new friends.
I just thought I'd do a quick check-in and let you know what is going on in the roller-coaster that has become my life...
We are all three doing very well. I think the added pressure of coming out to my mother has whipped everyone into shape - lol
We are all being very protective of "us" right now...and I like it
Well, the rift between my mother and I is not healed, but is better.
She finally wrote me a long email to explain her side. She thinks the 3-person dynamic is a problem. According to her, it will never work, and someone will end up hurt. Also, we are "ruining our children's lives."
So, in a weak, child-like moment, I decided to point out her flawed logic...I returned an email that said, "Hubby and I are getting a divorce. I am moving in with Pinky. Does that make it better?" My thought process was...she would realize immediately that me having only one lover would not fix the problem. AND should know that I would never leave Poppa. Well, that didn't work out so well...
I received a frantic call from my mother while in the Deli of our local grocery. She had just received my email and wanted to know what was going on. I was immediately mad that she believed that email for one second. She said that would make it better for the kids.
Phone call with mom was not pretty in the end. She was crying - I was pissed off - I told her she was over-reacting as We are ALL trying to figure this out. Nobody is moving in with anybody today! I asked her to calm down and assured her we would talk later.
That was Monday. By Saturday, I still hadn't heard anything from her, so I decided to drop-in and see where her head was.
Well, she wasn't crying. After small talk, I asked if she was feeling better. She said, "We're just going to have to agree to disagree." We talked about some other things. Just before I was leaving, I said, "there are some great resources on the internet." She quickly replied, "Oh, I've been there. We just shouldn't talk about it anymore."
yet again
How is that going to help? If I've learned anything from my new relationship...it's that COMMUNICATION is key. Ignoring things you don't like never makes them go away.
So here I am. Mom knows. She is not thrilled. I am trying not to allow her to poison my brain, but she's got a tiny little corner of it. That, I do not like.
So on my way out the door. I give mom a hug. Tell her I love her. She says tell Poppa and B (my son) I said Hi!
It took all my energy not to ask if she wanted me to say "hi" to Pinky, too.
This time, I kept myself in check, and was on my merry way.
Oh boy. Hopefully the next few months will pass uneventfully and she will chill out.