serialmonogamist
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All I was saying is that I think when people are in monogamous relationships, they sometimes/often feel some level of attraction or interest in others and this can go as far as they let it. However, because monogamous culture renders such feelings/actions taboo in various ways, they end up leading to negativity.I don't think I am getting what you are saying here. Could you rephrase this? I think you are saying that all poly relationships seem to come from the desire to cheat. Is that it?
So I'm not saying anything about poly relationships. I'm talking about repressed desire for extra-monogamous contact causing problems within monogamy and that polyamory could present a way to express extra-monogamous desires without all the negativity of cheating and suspicion/policing of cheating.
It feels like people keep responding to me as if I'm accusing polyamory of being some variation of cheating or swinging. I think this is because I generally take a continuum approach to most forms of human behavior. I'm less interested in establishing the differences between polyamory and cheating, swinging, etc. as I am in looking at how people's attitudes toward relationship-control influence the way they feel about and treat each other. Does that make sense?