I'm new here and this seems like a great place for people to support each other.
We are just getting started in poly and last night had an unsuccessful conversation about boundaries. Long story short, I'm bi, he's not, almost to a phobic degree I feel, and is really struggling with the idea of me being anywhere near another man. Like "la la la I can't hear you" struggling. I'm giving him some time to process everything and my views admittedly have changed since we first started talking (i.e. unicorn), but he is not doing any research on his own and it frustrates me. I've checked with him several times to make sure he's still onboard and he says he is. I just don't know where to go from here.
I also have a man who has approached me on OkC and hes really nice. Its still jut research but he's interested in me and I'm not protesting. Hubs doesn't know yet and I don't know how to bring it up considering our conversation. I'm going to get the book "opening up", but any suggestions would be so helpful.
We are just getting started in poly and last night had an unsuccessful conversation about boundaries. Long story short, I'm bi, he's not, almost to a phobic degree I feel, and is really struggling with the idea of me being anywhere near another man. Like "la la la I can't hear you" struggling. I'm giving him some time to process everything and my views admittedly have changed since we first started talking (i.e. unicorn), but he is not doing any research on his own and it frustrates me. I've checked with him several times to make sure he's still onboard and he says he is. I just don't know where to go from here.
I also have a man who has approached me on OkC and hes really nice. Its still jut research but he's interested in me and I'm not protesting. Hubs doesn't know yet and I don't know how to bring it up considering our conversation. I'm going to get the book "opening up", but any suggestions would be so helpful.