A lot of these posts seem like we're assuming that the woman is just sitting these and doing nothing. In that case, yes, it is all up to the man.
I think it's on the person who is interested. Just own it and speak up. Man or woman -- it makes no difference. You interested? Speak up. Other people are not mind readers.
So what about situations where both parties are exhibiting all the right body language for things to move forward?
Someone just
speaks up and see if it moves it forward?
This is like talking in circles to me. *mind boggling*
I think direct is best. I'm with opalescent here with this quote...
And those guys are not ready to play in the big leagues. I am quite direct. If someone, man or woman, is that easily intimidated, then that makes my decision making process much easier.
I know what I want when I want it. I will check if the other person shares same and then yay. I'm not going to be CRASS about expressing the desire but I
will express it straight up.
"I find you attractive and would like to ____ you. Would that be ok?"
If no shared desire, then alright. I back off.
Making it harder than it needs to be is just ugh. I prefer KISS -- "Keep is simple, silly."
I don't mind being shot down. I'm paying the person a compliment that I find them attractive. I don't expect
them to go there just because
I wouldn't mind. They have their own feelings about it.
I expect myself to just speak up and let the person know.
I also expect if a person speaks up to ME that I will say "Yes!" or "No!" clearly.
I expect the person to accept my clear answer.
GG