Oh, and BTW, I'm interested in seeing if poly works for me, and joined OKC to meet poly men, but I don't mention the words poly or polyamorous in my OKC profile. Women do have to be more cautious. There may be a chick on OKC for you, but it's just harder to find them.
As a poly guy located just outside of NYC who uses OKC I have a quick question.
If you don't mention poly or polyamorous in your profile, how will someone who is looking specifically for poly people find you?
This will be true of any dating site. Women will get WAY more messages than men.OKC is rather stale around here, too. Have you tried Plenty of Fish? That's where I met BF. DH and I met on Lavalife, but I believe you have to pay to contact people.
DH has yet to have anything really pan out, and he's been actively looking for about 6 months. I went on and got tons of messages. Mine were quantity, not quality, though.
POF I got over ten messages a day from men sho just wanted to fuck me... la la la... took a lot of wading through and patience. I met Mono there though. He just wanted to fuck me too, but for some reason I was extra patient for him... go figure, it worked!
Ugh. I HATED the folks I was meeting on PoF.
"Block" is your friend!
A couple of ways. In my profile, I do mention something to the effect that I'm looking for a new way to be in relationships. Also, on OKC, people can see who checks your profile, so even though I don't have poly in mine, I do check profiles of poly people so they can see I've visited. If I'm really interested, I'll make them a favorite, or give their profile an award or something. Some of them look at me back, and do the same thing. This has led to conversations via the message system they have. I also make sure to answer some poly-oriented questions favorably so it shows up. If someone wants to do a little work, they get what I'm about. I don't like making it too easy, I guess. Online dating is all very new to me anyway, but the one poly guy with whom I've been corresponding is someone I contacted myself first, with a message. This seems to be working for me, as I am very cautious.As a poly guy located just outside of NYC who uses OKC I have a quick question.Oh, and BTW, I'm interested in seeing if poly works for me, and joined OKC to meet poly men, but I don't mention the words poly or polyamorous in my OKC profile. Women do have to be more cautious. There may be a chick on OKC for you, but it's just harder to find them.
If you don't mention poly or polyamorous in your profile, how will someone who is looking specifically for poly people find you?
POF, is a realy drag, unless you have tons of time and a good sense of humour.
HA! I did really didn't I?!I think you just described dating in general.
I've been on OKC now for quite a while and have had zero luck meeting anyone poly. 99% of the women on there seem to be looking for traditional relationships. :/ I met an awesome new friend on there, but thats about it.
Anyone know of any sites more geared toward poly or open relationships?
Its getting depressing to not know where to look. Seems like there has to be someone for me out there.... its just finding her..... grrr