Okay, so I totally told my mom today. She commented on my Facebook about me being down and said I can call home if I want. I ended up catching her on Facebook IM, so this is the convo...
Me: Hey mom.
Me: Helloooooo.
Peggy: I'm in class right now. What's up.
Me: Well, you shouldn't be on Facebook then. I was just gonna tell you what's going on.
Peggy: I am kinda doing my work. It is work at your own pace so I can do what I want.
Me: Oooh. Well, you want me to tell you now or not then?
Peggy: Up to you.
Me: Okay... I guess I'll try to simplify it here, ha ha... So... My friend, M, moved like a week or so ago. He is now in Florida with his boyfriend, JB. I'm not the only one that thinks him moving was a bad idea, to say the least. Anyway, this friend is one that Joshua and I both really care about. I'm pretty sure I told you Joshua is bisexual? Well anyway, Joshua and I both had "more than friend" feelings for M and are down that he left... Look up "polyamory" sometime, it may make more sense. Basically, Joshua and I were sorta "dating" M, but then he moved to be with this guy.
Peggy: Well, maybe it will be better for your marrige in the long run. ?
Me: To not have M around?
Joshua and I have talked about it a lot and to cover questions, it's not an "open marriage," nor are we "swingers." We both had feelings for the same persona and were both involved with said person. Just saying.
(And I know some true swingers, not something I'd want! Ha ha)
Peggy: Maybe M has decided to become all the way gay and not be bisexual any more. He has to do what is best for him. He knows you and Josh have each other for support (even with Josh away right now).
Me: He was sorta seeing his boyfriend, JB, the whole time... It's complicated. M really is gay, but him and I have... History... So I've been the "exception." LOL. Trying to spare details, but basically I took his v-card a few years ago, so we're pretty close.
We just are upset that he moved to be with a guy he hadn't ever lived with before or anything. Right now he's having car issues from driving 25 hours down there and his work transfer is sorta not working out right.
Me: (Sorry to just throw it all out there. I told Dad, sorta, what's going on, too)
Peggy: Time will heal all the pain. You just have to be strong and supportive to your friend. If it doesn't work out for him, I am sure he will be back.
Me: Yeah, he already said he loves us, too, but wants to give this whole Florida experience a go and will be back if it doesn't work and then we can try this again. Just makes me sad that he's already having issues, relationship or not.
(And thanks for understanding)
By the way, you met M, the one with the piercings I used to live with. Ha ha.
Peggy: The one with the stockings on?
Me: No, that was Adam, he's crazy and we don't talk really anymore.
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That one.
Peggy: I don't remember him. He is the one who was helping you get rides to places and things?
Me: Uhm, he was one of them. I lived with him and Barron, Barron helped, too. I remember you got upset with M because I got piercings and you said it was his fault or something, ha ha. Not sure how serious you were.
Oh well, point is that's him.
Peggy: OK.
Me: So yeah, that's why I was feeling down last night and if you ever see me refer to "both" or something that doesn't really sound like a Joshua thing, that's why. Now you're in the loop. Other than Joshua not having his phone right now, we're great.
Peggy: I should probably get to work. Will chat with you again later. I will log onto facebook at home when I get the chance or you can call me after 2:30 if you want.
Me: Okay, talk then!
Also, my mom and I didn't really get along when I lived at home, nor immediately after I moved out, but over the past few years, we were able to rebuild a relationship. I am very happy that we're to the point that I can tell her this and she was understanding. :'D