Going back and forth with my primary partner I've realized we need a principle, or norm, to place special protection against heartless criticism to people dear to our hearts, be it close friends or lovers. That is, I don't want to spoil/rot his relationships that he feels are important to him, and neither do I want him to do that with mine.
So I've come up with this principle that I'm just calling 'prosympathetic immunity', that when followed, will mean the primary partner must, in the worst case scenario, respectfully tolerate the other person in silence when they're present, in consideration to the wishes of the primary partner. Harsh criticism is not okay if they're present, so no one feels awkward or loathed, or relationships are damaged.
Has this strategy been mentioned somewhere before, does it have a name, or do you think it is effective?
So I've come up with this principle that I'm just calling 'prosympathetic immunity', that when followed, will mean the primary partner must, in the worst case scenario, respectfully tolerate the other person in silence when they're present, in consideration to the wishes of the primary partner. Harsh criticism is not okay if they're present, so no one feels awkward or loathed, or relationships are damaged.
Has this strategy been mentioned somewhere before, does it have a name, or do you think it is effective?