Hello. So I'm in a new poly relationship with another's women. We are both married and were not expecting this. Both couples had joined a swinging website to add spice to our marriages. It just so happens we ended up joining the site within 24 hours of each other. We got to talking on the site. We have a ton in common and since the very first day wife and I have talked and/or texted every day. The 4 of us have met in person 1x now and all hit it off very well. We all have secure and happy marriages and she and I have fallen in live. We have so much in common . We have all talked openly and honestly about this and while both hubby's say that they want to support us and be part of this also my hubby looked these feelings up. they both in the last week have admired to feelings of insecurity. I think part if the problem is that the boys are not involved in the day to day aspect of the relationship as it is by phone and text(100+ miles away) we are seeing them this weekend and I think it's a good tons to talk things our. Any advice or tips? Topics I should bring up? What has worked for you?