Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

11:17 a.m., Monday the 1st

About half an hour ago, SB, BH, and his folks left to go watch a movie (I think locally). I asked SB if she wanted me to go with and she was like, "Nooooooo." It seems that BH's folks are being extra high maintainance today.

For dinner yesterday we had the Polish sausage, there was also a new kind of horseradish to try. I like horseradish so I put a good amount on my sausage. Holy wow did I underestimate that stuff! There were a couple of moments where I was coughing, crying, and damn near gagging. BH's dad was laughing but I think even he was nervous about my condition.
 
3:03 p.m., Tuesday the 2nd

BH is off today, he could have slept in, but I think he got up early and it was he who drove his folks to the airport. A short time ago, I believe he was taking a nap. In the meanwhile, I am fasting until dinner, it is really hard to do but so far I am hanging in there. We have some White Stilton apricot cheese we bought at Trader Joe's just over a week ago. I am planning on finishing it off after dinner. That's my plan, and I'm sticking to it.

I got a letter from my youngest brother today, he has been in prison for about seven years, and has hopes of being released later this year. I also am hoping for that. In the meantime, I will answer his letter, it may take me a couple of days as I am just not fast at that sort of thing.

That's all I have to tell you at this time.
 
3:54 p.m., Wednesday the 3rd

We did not watch anything yesterday, BH and SB were both very tired. Dinner was pizza from La Gitana, with salad from there and pita bread. I had my White Stilton apricot cheese as planned. Today after dinner I'll have one or two bananas. Right now I am super hungry and "thirsty." I finished writing my brother back, but I forgot to format the text to be justified. Too late now, the envelope is sealed. I really beat myself up about that one.

If dinner tonight is at 6:30 p.m., I'll need to hang in there about 2½ more hours. So hungry ... so hungry ...
 
4:00 p.m., Thursday the 4th

Make that 3½ hours, we didn't have dinner til about 7:30 p.m. ... but I hung in there. We had leftover Polish sausage; for some strange reason I did not put the new kind of horseradish on it. Instead I put some horseradish mustard on it. I've had it before, so I knew I would not go blind eating it. We did not watch anything afterwards, no doubt because it was getting late.

I'm perhaps not as hungry as I was yesterday, but still pretty damn hungry. Hopefully we'll have dinner earlier tonight?
 
2:20 p.m., Friday the 5th

Well we sure didn't have it much earlier, if at all. Snowbunny had an appointment to meet with a dog trainer after work; I guess that took awhile. She picked up McDonald's for us on the way home.

No episodes.

I'm probably not as hungry today as I was yesterday, but fasting still sucks (as usual). I hope I'll weigh less at my next doctor visit, but I suppose if I can even weigh the same I won't be too disappointed.
 
12:46 p.m., Sunday the 7th

This is another day when I'm feeling extra stressed out, for no reason I can put my finger on. I'm very thirsty, if you take my meaning. Too bad the three of us aren't going on a road trip today. BH and SB are just doing some work around the house. We do plan on eating out for dinner. Something to look forward to.
 
10:17 a.m., Monday the 8th

As of today, forum activity has officially decreased, in all areas. This actually makes my job easier, but I'm mildly surprised. It's possible that people just aren't doing as much forum stuff nowadays. Like it's not a handy fit with smartphones? Maybe people are playing more Pokémon Go?

Last night we ate out at Mariachi Alegre. The last time we ate there, the service was bad, the food was compromised (e.g. they were "out of guacamole"), and the clientele sucked. So we did not go there again for a long time, but last night we decided to give them another chance. Good move, things were much better. We spent a lot though, like Snowbunny and I got drinks (margaritas) and that added quite a bit.

We haven't watched Game of Thrones for quite awhile, our last episode was (S4E6) on March 25. Brother-Husband indicated that we might do a "marathon" today. Like, during the day. That would be pretty cool.

My stress levels have decreased, but are still somewhat elevated.
 
4:39 p.m., Tuesday the 9th

Well the forum activity level has gone back up again, not all the way back up, but somewhat back up. Plus I got a late start today. I tend to "sleep" in when BH and SB are both at work.

I wouldn't say we did a "marathon" yesterday, but we did watch three episodes. Episodes Seven thru Nine, I think we just have one episode left to go in Season Four.

I've been told BH and SB will take the dog on about a three-mile walk today. I offered to come along and SB said okay. She got home not too long ago, and BH is I think on his way.
 
2:08 p.m., Wednesday the 10th

Forum activity level has dipped back down, not all the way back down, but somewhat.

I'm reeeally "thirsty." You know what I want right now? a nice tall glass of vodka. There is a bottle of vodka in the fridge, it is almost completely full. It would be so easy to walk out there and pour myself a glass. So easy, and so impossible. I have gave my word (to Snowbunny) that I would never do that sort of thing again. And the reason that vodka is out there, easy to find, is because I gave my word and she is trusting me. She would be so disappointed in me if I broke my word. I would be so disappointed in myself. So I'm not going to do it ... but I'm going to have my fantasies.

I'm also fantasizing about food, I would love something to eat. Somehow I am going to convince myself to fast until dinner. But I give myself permission to have my fantasies.

No episodes last night, Brother-Husband was really tired when he got home from work.
 
1:08 p.m., Thursday the 11th

I would say forum activity has decreased even more. I have also noticed that Facebook activity has decreased, like a couple of the younger people have suspended their accounts. I don't know what's the most popular these days, but it's not Facebook and it's not this forum. [shrug]

SB is going to a kennel club meeting today after work, she is taking Eddie as he can have some playtime there. I offered to go with but she declined, she wants to scope the place out first. She indicated that BH will bring home dinner today, he says he's going to surprise me, yes, Little Caesars (square) will come as quite a shock. :p

Dinner yesterday was (leftover) chili (not canned). Also we had some really good bread. I would love to eat some more of that bread right now, but I am going to resist. Also we had some spiced wine, that was a treat. BH got home late (c. 7:00 p.m. or 7:30 p.m.), so there were no episodes.
 
1:32 p.m., Friday the 12th

Okay, I totally called it. Little Caesars, exactly like I said. I'm not as big of a pizza fan as I used to be, but I was hungry and therefore glad to see it. BH got home relatively early, but we still didn't watch anything as there was a hockey game he wanted to watch. Also, I sensed that he was in somewhat of a bad mood, and thought I should give him some space. I know SB would try to get him to talk about it, but that's not my cup of tea, nor my area of expertise.

Forum activity has decreased even more. It has slowly decreased from about 2015 on forward, but this past week has been extra slow, with today being (I think) a new record. That's okay, it makes my job easier. Although I don't know if it means that fewer poly newbies are getting the advice that they need.

This concludes my riport.
 
11:25 a.m., Sunday the 14th

There are no plans for today, at least not right now. Hopefully we (the three of us) will eat out for dinner tonight. Eddie had his last class at the obedience school yesterday; he did well on his final exam and passed. SB will take him to a different school for his next semester, there were various things she didn't like about this school, e.g. it was too grubby.

For dinner last night, SB went to El Rey Burro and picked it up. I used a plate, knife, and fork for my (huge) veggie burrito. Way too messy to pick it up and eat it by hand. It's really good though. After dinner there was a hockey game on TV, but after the hockey game, BH and I watched GoT:S4E10, the last episode in that season. This concludes my riport.
 
11:02 a.m., Monday the 15th

The three of us went out yesterday around 2:30 p.m. or 3:00 p.m., drove a little ways to eat at a place we like called China House (really good egg foo young), and after that went shopping at a certain Walmart "neighborhood market." Snowbunny caved in to temptation and picked out a pecan pie for us. An hour or so after we got home, she served each of us a slice heated with caramel drizzled on top. After that, Brother-Husband and I watched GoT:S5E1. Then with SB's help we figured out how to watch S8E1 via Amazon Prime.
 
Kevin, I don't read the journals very often - just a matter of time, or lack thereof. Lots of other interests, responsibilities, and obligations - as with most of us I'm certain.

But I did want to comment on your observation of declining forum activity over the last few years. I have found this to be true of a number of Internet discussion venues that I follow to varying degrees. I suspect that a lot of this had to do with migration of Internet discussion to the FB groups - which seems to have become the most popular venue for discussion on the Net. I am a member of several FB groups myself covering a wide variety of topics of interest. The discussion venues have definitely shifted over time - from pre-Net online venues such as Compuserve, to the Golden days of the Usenet - and the big listservs, then to forums of this style, Yahoo Groups, etc.... Now Facebook.

I use an alternate FB identity for the poly groups on FB - and belong to several, although I don't post much. For the most part, I see mostly (but not exclusively) millenials on the FB groups - and discussion seems to focus more on the social than the intellectual. There is some discussion of relationship issues, but not nearly at the level of depth that occurs here. But, then again, I only see a small sample relatively speaking, so I am sure there are others that are "deeper" so to speak.

And, although this group may not be as busy as in times past, I suspect it will continue to remain somewhat active for the more in depth discussion that occurs here. Anyway, just a thought or two. :) Al
 
2:02 p.m., Tuesday the 16th

You're probably right, Polyamory.com won't die out, it will still be here for the more in-depth discussions, while the lighter fare will probably (continue to) migrate over to Facebook. I am not big on Facebook groups, otherwise I might join one for my locality. I know there's at least one Seattle group. I guess I'll mostly just be here (on this forum) for anyone who comes here seeking feedback/help. That's good enough for me.
 
2:40 p.m., Wednesday the 17th

BH and I watched GoT:S5E2 a couple of days ago, but no episodes last night. SB cooked salmon for us yesterday for dinner, plus rice and veggies. We had some of Reed's Sweet Wine too. For dessert she sliced up a fresh pineapple, also there was ice cream in the freezer.

I'm pretty hungry right now, but determined to hang in there until dinner. A bottle of Irish cream sounds really good right now. :p

Outdoor temps continue to be on the cool side, too cool for opening windows. Come on now, it's April already.
 
11:58 a.m., Thursday the 18th

A couple of YouTubes that this atheist finds hilarious:

"Dad, do we have to take them all?"

"Yes!!!"

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SB made quiche yesterday for dinner. I admitted that I would prefer it without crust. SB took that news well, and said that she preferred for me to be honest. BH got home a bit later than usual, dinner was around 6:30 p.m., so we did not watch any episodes.
 
3:15 p.m., Friday the 19th

A couple more of those YouTubes:

Mind you, these are only funny if you don't mind making fun of God.

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Turns out, yesterday I had a dental appointment. My first crown, yay! I guess it wasn't very bad. They certainly numbed me up well enough. And even that didn't hurt, as they applied a topical anesthetic first. In two weeks (May 2) I have one more appointment to put the finished crown in. Right now I just have a temporary crown.

The dentist is very conveniently located, within walking distance. But SB was kind enough to get off work early and drive me there. She also took care of the payment. Which was a little over $1000.00 (for both appointments). After all that, at my request we stopped at Tim's Pharmacy, which is right across the street from the dentist. We picked up a script for me, plus I got some allsorts licorice and white/milk chocolate covered coffee beans. Yes, it was all about me me me.

SB served us dinner a little before 6:30 p.m., the rest of the quiche plus sweet potato waffle fries. Starting at about 7:30 p.m., BH and I watched GoT:S5E3.
 
10:44 a.m., Sunday the 21st

We don't have any special plans for Easter today, other than we might eat out at a casino for dinner tonight. BH and I will watch GoT:S8E2. Last night we watched S5E4. That's all, I didn't have a lot to tell you today. I am extra stressed-out today, for unknown reasons.
 
12:37 p.m., Monday the 22nd

Well instead of a casino, BH surprised us with a new place, Falls Terrace, a fancy restaurant in Tumwater. It was a little pricey, over $20.00 for each of us plus we had drinks and dessert. Really good food though, and great service. And a nice view of the falls. We can't go there all the time, but we'll probably go there now and then.
 
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