kinkypolycpl
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My husband and I recently started talking with and seeing a woman. So far we have gone out with her together twice. I have plans to spend time with her just the two of us tomorrow and my husband is going to take her out just her and him next week. Too soon for issues right? Don't I wish.
Our problem is probably one of the last problems you would think to have. She and I get along great. We are both bi and very interested in each other and building a relationship. The issue is that she doubts my husbands attraction to her. We are new to the poly lifestyle and while we have talked about it a lot and had one brief fling with someone who was our friend we are still very green. My husband is just getting adjusted to the new situation and isn't use to dating and needing to show affection to two women much less one who he is married to and the other who is still so brand new to him. In addition he is trying to make sure that he doesn't do anything that will upset me. (I have reassured him time and time again that I am 100% ok and comfortable and that I really like this woman.) He is also a perfect gentleman and this woman is super hot and accustomed to being treated like an object. My husband isn't like that.
His lack of physical interaction with her has caused her to doubt him. We are communicating with her about it and told her that when the two of them spend time alone this week it will make it easier for him to show his attraction and get more comfortable with her. This in turn will make it easier for him to be more physical with both of us when we all go out together.
Have any other couples experienced this? Does anyone have any advice on things we (she, my husband, or I) can do to help? Thanks in advance!
Our problem is probably one of the last problems you would think to have. She and I get along great. We are both bi and very interested in each other and building a relationship. The issue is that she doubts my husbands attraction to her. We are new to the poly lifestyle and while we have talked about it a lot and had one brief fling with someone who was our friend we are still very green. My husband is just getting adjusted to the new situation and isn't use to dating and needing to show affection to two women much less one who he is married to and the other who is still so brand new to him. In addition he is trying to make sure that he doesn't do anything that will upset me. (I have reassured him time and time again that I am 100% ok and comfortable and that I really like this woman.) He is also a perfect gentleman and this woman is super hot and accustomed to being treated like an object. My husband isn't like that.
His lack of physical interaction with her has caused her to doubt him. We are communicating with her about it and told her that when the two of them spend time alone this week it will make it easier for him to show his attraction and get more comfortable with her. This in turn will make it easier for him to be more physical with both of us when we all go out together.
Have any other couples experienced this? Does anyone have any advice on things we (she, my husband, or I) can do to help? Thanks in advance!