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Old 03-12-2010, 04:31 AM
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Originally Posted by MonoVCPHG View Post
This primary/secondary thing seems to have taken me a huge amount of time to understand. I think I get it now. This isn't about labels, this is about treatment. There is an immense difference between referring to someone descriptively as secondary and treating them as such. This is about treatment not labels. This is about treating people as commodities I think. That I get!
I may call myself a secondary within our relationship but I am certainly not treated as being secondary.

this is exactly how i see it mono and its why im so wary of using that label because i think its so often confused if i say secondary that someone would think that id treat the person as such.

For me there are only real people with real feelings needs and wants and not labels. Each relationship is important to me in diffrent ways.

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