Charcoalburner
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Hi,
I'm 37, male living in England. Describe myself as polyamorous. I think I'm single. Been a weird weekend - not sure what will become of it.
Writing this to try and understand what has happened and my part in it all.
Been seeing a younger woman I will call E for a few months. Ahe is 23. She ended our relatinship quite abruptly over the phone one day as she didn't feel free enough. Upsetting, and odd, as she was as free as she wanted to be. I don't think of myself as possessive these days. Well, after a while she missed me and we got back together - if the word together can be used.
Things developed and to my mind our relationship became more and more permissive, which is what I wanted and seemed to be what she wanted too. We talked openly about our seperate adventures - we live in different towns and only get together every few weeks or so.
At a party at hers on Saturday, I couldn't get into her bed when I finally wanted to crash as it was so full of people. I kissed her goodnight and went to find another place to sleep.
A house mate, whose birthday it was wouldn't let me sleep alone and invited me to sleep with her and another friend/housemate.
You can probably guess what happened, me and this woman ended up connecting intimately. In the morning, feeling quite odd about it all I told E about it and she laughed out loud and told me about developments in a relationship between her and a guy who also lives in this crazy house.
We laughed together and my love for E grew even more - what an amazing woman I have found.
Except - she's ignoring my calls and texts now, and according to S, you know to whom I'm referring too, is pretty pissed off with us both.
Ah bollocks! I just want to talk to her. Our last words were a commitment to spend some time together away from her place, but I don't know now if that will happen.
I feel I don't really have people in my town to talk to about these issues who would understand without judging our lifestyles harshly.
Downbeat intro, sorry.
I'm 37, male living in England. Describe myself as polyamorous. I think I'm single. Been a weird weekend - not sure what will become of it.
Writing this to try and understand what has happened and my part in it all.
Been seeing a younger woman I will call E for a few months. Ahe is 23. She ended our relatinship quite abruptly over the phone one day as she didn't feel free enough. Upsetting, and odd, as she was as free as she wanted to be. I don't think of myself as possessive these days. Well, after a while she missed me and we got back together - if the word together can be used.
Things developed and to my mind our relationship became more and more permissive, which is what I wanted and seemed to be what she wanted too. We talked openly about our seperate adventures - we live in different towns and only get together every few weeks or so.
At a party at hers on Saturday, I couldn't get into her bed when I finally wanted to crash as it was so full of people. I kissed her goodnight and went to find another place to sleep.
A house mate, whose birthday it was wouldn't let me sleep alone and invited me to sleep with her and another friend/housemate.
You can probably guess what happened, me and this woman ended up connecting intimately. In the morning, feeling quite odd about it all I told E about it and she laughed out loud and told me about developments in a relationship between her and a guy who also lives in this crazy house.
We laughed together and my love for E grew even more - what an amazing woman I have found.
Except - she's ignoring my calls and texts now, and according to S, you know to whom I'm referring too, is pretty pissed off with us both.
Ah bollocks! I just want to talk to her. Our last words were a commitment to spend some time together away from her place, but I don't know now if that will happen.
I feel I don't really have people in my town to talk to about these issues who would understand without judging our lifestyles harshly.
Downbeat intro, sorry.