Well now, that is quite a response. Thank you.
I wasn't really directing this in a poly v mono question or direction. Just trying to understand how meeting people with seemingly different personas (roleplay with rules), and then trying to migrate that interaction outside of the structured state of play (in real life where "courtly love" is not structured). I would think it would be like meeting someone on stage, he is charming, personable and charismatic on stage however in person he is shy, not charming etc. That change in personality creates a level of expectation and falseness. Like I said, I could be looking at this in a negative way, which is why I am not seeing the positive of it. Flirting and crushing on someone who plays a role creates a fantasy about them. aka falseness. ...(I hope I made more sense that time)
Thats very different than a persons comfort level with eating.
Anyways I am not arguing just wanted to understand how that interaction works.
Now thats an interesting perspective. So do the spouses of these seemingly monogamous people not mind flirting in this case? Is it still not flirting because it isn't real and fake, or at least they are hoping so?
We can take this to pm if you want. I don't want to hijack the thread. It was just a curiosity after your description of it. I can understand meeting people collectively in a group/hobby setting, but meeting those people under the guise of roleplay, with the rules laid out in a roleplay way piqued my curiosity.
I wasn't really directing this in a poly v mono question or direction. Just trying to understand how meeting people with seemingly different personas (roleplay with rules), and then trying to migrate that interaction outside of the structured state of play (in real life where "courtly love" is not structured). I would think it would be like meeting someone on stage, he is charming, personable and charismatic on stage however in person he is shy, not charming etc. That change in personality creates a level of expectation and falseness. Like I said, I could be looking at this in a negative way, which is why I am not seeing the positive of it. Flirting and crushing on someone who plays a role creates a fantasy about them. aka falseness. ...(I hope I made more sense that time)
Thats very different than a persons comfort level with eating.
Anyways I am not arguing just wanted to understand how that interaction works.
The game of courtly love is simply a vehicle for acclimating people to flirting again. Being in an atmosphere that encourages people to share their appreciation for other people rather than having to hide it as something inappropriate because the target is married is the key here. That's a huge wedge in the door of monogamy, I think. Not many marriages have an open license to flirt, because flirting can go so many other places.
Now thats an interesting perspective. So do the spouses of these seemingly monogamous people not mind flirting in this case? Is it still not flirting because it isn't real and fake, or at least they are hoping so?
We can take this to pm if you want. I don't want to hijack the thread. It was just a curiosity after your description of it. I can understand meeting people collectively in a group/hobby setting, but meeting those people under the guise of roleplay, with the rules laid out in a roleplay way piqued my curiosity.