Hey, checking in again
Things are looking better by now. As Sward began working, our little ones became more and more mobile and therefore really easy to keep busy. They can spend hours just lying and crawling around, babbling in their two to three letter syllables and after they started to eat pureed food the meals became clocklike. It it still arduous at times and Lin is feeling stressed, but nothing in comparison to some months ago.
He does not want to be seen as an "uncle", SNeacail, and none of us ever thought of 'downgrading' him because of the problems during the first time. Yes, if it would not have been manageable I even thought about a possible separation space-wise, but luckily this was not necessary. We regard every adult in this household as a full parent of the twins and no one is less involved in their life compared to the other(s). But yes, you are right, one never comprehends how much of your time and yourself a child will occupy and no, we were not really prepared for two at once for sure
But now, seven months in, I can say that we succeeded. Things begin to really relax slowly.
From my point of view, aside from the stress with and around Lin, it's such a great time. I love those kids to death and am still all over them. I have never thought that I could be such a devoted mother, but it happened. I like them best when they get older as it seems. They were cute when they were little, but the older they get the more I am captured. It is soo interesting to observe their development and progress.
We are slowly starting to revive our individual relationships, which have suffered quite a bit under the needs of the children, but I honestly hardly cared about this loss during the last seven months. I have to remember to look out for my men as well again. While it did not impact Sward and me that much, because both of us were in our individual 'baby bubbles', it was additionally hard on Lin, who missed me and us quite a bit. Quality time is a big talking point on my list. And, btw, it is Sward's and my wedding anniversary today; guess what I did ... sat in the library to prepare for my exam
Speaking of it, I am still at my finals. My last exam (for my first subject) will be next month, the rest being hopefully completed in half a year. It is so hard to find time to study right now. It wasn't my best idea to have children now of all times, but it seems as if I am doing quite well nevertheless. So overall, everything is OK on that front as well.
Aside from all this, I hope you are doing fine