Hey folks,
I'm relatively new to polyamory, and in the past few months, since I've been involved in open relationships, I've never felt so myself before.
But I need some advice about being the third wheel, something that's made me pretty lonely lately.
Situation
I've been in an open relationship with a good friend of mine, Dave, for the past few months. Our dynamic is made up mostly of sex and pillow talk.
Dave and Mary, a female friend of mine, with whom I'm not sexually engaged, have been intense lovers for some time, bonded in a way he and I never have been. When all three of us, who are politically active together, hang around each other, I can't help but feel left out, a little awkward. They gently stroke each other's hands and are constantly engaged in conversation that I can never really include myself in.
Dave doesn't seem to want to show me much affection when Mary is there.
I tend to feel as if I have no right to be there, when they're together. Mary tries to include me by being affectionate, and by constantly asking in general terms how I'm doing, or kissing me gently on the cheek.
I love them both and don't really feel any animosity. But I do feel very alone. I'm not really engaged in any other relationships for now. I'd love to be able to hang around with them in a group, but it's so much harder.
As the third wheel, what should I do?
I'm relatively new to polyamory, and in the past few months, since I've been involved in open relationships, I've never felt so myself before.
But I need some advice about being the third wheel, something that's made me pretty lonely lately.
Situation
I've been in an open relationship with a good friend of mine, Dave, for the past few months. Our dynamic is made up mostly of sex and pillow talk.
Dave and Mary, a female friend of mine, with whom I'm not sexually engaged, have been intense lovers for some time, bonded in a way he and I never have been. When all three of us, who are politically active together, hang around each other, I can't help but feel left out, a little awkward. They gently stroke each other's hands and are constantly engaged in conversation that I can never really include myself in.
Dave doesn't seem to want to show me much affection when Mary is there.
I tend to feel as if I have no right to be there, when they're together. Mary tries to include me by being affectionate, and by constantly asking in general terms how I'm doing, or kissing me gently on the cheek.
I love them both and don't really feel any animosity. But I do feel very alone. I'm not really engaged in any other relationships for now. I'd love to be able to hang around with them in a group, but it's so much harder.
As the third wheel, what should I do?