My wife and I have been contemplating poly in some form for over a year now and have yet to actually do anything about it. The primary reason is my wife is working on some personal things and I agree she needs to work those things out (counseling is helping). She's very interested but obviously, you have to be in the right frame of mind and in the right emotional state to begin. I'm completely on board with all of this and haven't rushed her. She is interested in getting something started as it takes time anyway. Anyway, background aside, and to my point. We are in our mid thirties and we are friends with a single mother in her mid to late twenties. We are both interested in her in "more than friendship" way. To me, she seems to have the mindset that I think she *could* be open to poly. So how in the world do we try to initiate "something" in a poly sense? How do we broach the subject without jeopardizing the friendship that we have?