CCretarolo
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So, for a while, I fell off of the poly wagon. I had several consecutive dating experiences which were nothing short of horrific (the stress in the last one resulted with hospitalization due to a kidney infection). So, both my roommate L and I (we dated a couple) decided that we were going to take some time off from dating and focus on ourselves. We've both gone out on some dates since then but nothing that we were interested in pursuing. To put it into perspective, while we are friends first, we also have a very loving (nearly) primary relationship .
Now, we both have new sexual interests and I'm personally not sure how to proceed. I hooked up with a guy who dated one of my friends in high school (about 7 years ago now) and am very excited about seeing where that connection leads. L, on the other hand, hooked up with a very good friend of mine who is staying with us until she can find a steady place to live.
I normally wouldn't be concerned but L has been very distant towards me in the last couple of days since our hook-ups happened. Also, we haven't had sex together since. So yeah... I'm a little worried that he's pulling away from me and am very concerned that he's not talking to me about the new development. I plan on giving him a few more days to process but I can feel my patience wearing thin. Do any of you have any suggestions to improve my patience and get a dialogue started when he's ready to talk?
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Now, we both have new sexual interests and I'm personally not sure how to proceed. I hooked up with a guy who dated one of my friends in high school (about 7 years ago now) and am very excited about seeing where that connection leads. L, on the other hand, hooked up with a very good friend of mine who is staying with us until she can find a steady place to live.
I normally wouldn't be concerned but L has been very distant towards me in the last couple of days since our hook-ups happened. Also, we haven't had sex together since. So yeah... I'm a little worried that he's pulling away from me and am very concerned that he's not talking to me about the new development. I plan on giving him a few more days to process but I can feel my patience wearing thin. Do any of you have any suggestions to improve my patience and get a dialogue started when he's ready to talk?
Any help would be greatly appreciated.