Huh -- actually, I was just thinking about this.
I moved to Santa Fe, mid-2001. I got
Polyamory published in 2004. While it made a minor splash in Minneapolis & a few cities around the country, there was barely even a ripple in New Mexico; a half-dozen Yahoo Group members met me one evening at Second Street Brewery, & it was quite pleasant but I was dazed on antihistamine.
Due to family matters, I moved back to Minnesota mid-2006... & later found out there was a Loving More event (conference? retreat?) that autumn in Santa Fe.
Not sure that I ever heard of Mim Chapman, who apparently started having monthly potlucks back around 2005, & e-published
What Does Polyamory Look Like? in 2010.
(Every time I read a review for yet another "groundbreaking book about this controversial new topic!!" -- which IMNSHO was aging nicely when >>I<< wrote about it! -- it's difficult not to laugh.)
My publisher (Crossquarter/Fenris, out of Santa Fe) has been poking at me for years to do a "plain talk" communication bootcamp for polyfolk, & I've always kinda shrugged it off with "find me twenty people who'd pay for that, & we'll talk." Thus far, nothing's happened, so I figure that's indicative of
something.