Derbylicious
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Thanks Neon for giving this it's own thread.
I'm not big on the online thing either. Mostly because I don't tend to develop an attraction based on just looks. I do have to be physically attracted to somebody, but that tends to grow based on personality and how we click.
This comment fills me full of nostalgia, as does this topic in general.
for, despite the fact that I said I don't look to the internet TO meet people, my first boyfriend was off the old Atari 400/800 BBS System "The Switchboard" run on NiteLite using ASCII/ATASCII at 300/1200 baud. In fact, I met my current/longtime boyfriend/friend through DDial and its real-world social events. But that was back in the 1980's, when having a computer and modem was itself indicative of belonging to a special-interest group (one might even come to refer to it as a "lifestyle", ALMOST). Back in the day, the ONLY way to interact with folks was through text - there were no avatars or "profile pictures" - and men outnumbered women by at least 50:1 (and yes, i'm pulling numbers out of my ass), so for all you guys who think it's so HAAAAARD (and not in a good way) to get women to notice your OKCupid profile, just be glad you're NOW instead of THEN; imagine your plight if you were trying to pick up chicks on DDial.
Things sure have changed with technology, but one thing is constant - shallow people can be found just about anywhere you look, and so can interesting ones.
How do you mean by finding people online. A meat market setup like okc or by chat rooms like this?
I was referring to the meat market type of online.
At first I thought your thread would be about meeting people online in general, but reading your post you mean dating sites.
I don't know of any other places to meet people. Sad isn't it? I was actually going to make a thread about where and how to meet new people. Any ideas? Because OKC doesn't work for me.
The local poly group, is comprised mostly of hippies. That works for them, but not for me. Does that make sense? I enjoy fighting sports, and those types of things actually make most of them sick. So, here I am. Blah....What do you enjoy doing? Seems to me if you're open about who you are and what your relationship structure is the right sort of people will just kind of find you. I do know that you have mentioned before not liking your local poly group much otherwise I would suggest that.
The local poly group, is comprised mostly of hippies. That works for them, but not for me. Does that make sense? I enjoy fighting sports, and those types of things actually make most of them sick. So, here I am. Blah....
...he is older than he looks, so it's not like he can go out and pick up the carefree girls in their 20's. (And wouldn't want to -- our daughters are in their 20's!)
The local poly group, is comprised mostly of hippies. That works for them, but not for me. Does that make sense? I enjoy fighting sports, and those types of things actually make most of them sick. So, here I am. Blah....
However, meeting people online is my thing. Not on purpose at all, just because I'm not very social outside and I spend a lot of time online, like right now. So I usually grow more connections this way, and they can develop into friendship or relationships.
Really, it's the same as yours. I meet people usually on forums, therefore I meet people who have a common interest with me (that forum) and not just random people, and sometimes more happens. It's closer to joining a club and happening to socialise with the other members.