hello everyone!
i'm so happy to have stumbled upon this resourceful and beautiful community. i have been lurking here for a few days and have found it so beneficial. i'm happy a thing like this exists.
before i ask my question, i'd like to give some background information. my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 and a half years (monogamous thus far). neither of us have participated in a relationship that wasn't mono. we have been open about our feelings about others/our sexuality always. both of us feel that this would be a really awesome thing for us. so far, we both have been on the same level when it comes to our needs and boundaries. overall, i would say we have a very honest, stable relationship, and i think that's what makes this more exciting than scary.
we have been talking about this in a serious way for about two weeks. we have been reading books together and talking about things that we want/need and things that wouldn't be okay (at least at first).
i know every relationship/individual is different - my intention is not to base my bf and i's pace on your answers (i feel we still have some ways to go!). i'm just curious - if you were in a mono relationship before it became a poly one, how long did it take before "taking the plunge"?
it's great to be here! hope all is well.
i'm so happy to have stumbled upon this resourceful and beautiful community. i have been lurking here for a few days and have found it so beneficial. i'm happy a thing like this exists.
before i ask my question, i'd like to give some background information. my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 and a half years (monogamous thus far). neither of us have participated in a relationship that wasn't mono. we have been open about our feelings about others/our sexuality always. both of us feel that this would be a really awesome thing for us. so far, we both have been on the same level when it comes to our needs and boundaries. overall, i would say we have a very honest, stable relationship, and i think that's what makes this more exciting than scary.
we have been talking about this in a serious way for about two weeks. we have been reading books together and talking about things that we want/need and things that wouldn't be okay (at least at first).
i know every relationship/individual is different - my intention is not to base my bf and i's pace on your answers (i feel we still have some ways to go!). i'm just curious - if you were in a mono relationship before it became a poly one, how long did it take before "taking the plunge"?
it's great to be here! hope all is well.