Hi! I'm new to this forum. I'll try to keep this brief even though it's complicated
I've been in a mono relationship with a man (I'm a woman) for 2 1/2 years and it's going beautifully. I've never been in a poly relationship but I've known people who are. A year and a half ago we met a man through friends who we've gotten close to. I'll call him Joe. Joe and I are bisexual, and I think my partner might be as well although he hasn't come out. Last December Joe and I started talking late into the night. I asked my partner if this bothered him and he said it that it didn't. At this point Joe and I are just close friends, but I can't help thinking of expanding the relationship. I keep wanting to at least cuddle him or pinch his nipples on occasion. I sense that he is very attracted to me and possibly my partner. I think my partner is attracted to Joe. It might just be my imagination and fantasies out of control, though!
My partner has joked about the three of us having a "threesome" but he also loves awkward humor so I don't know if it meant anything.
I know I should have brought all of this up to my partner long ago, but we all come from a small Midwestern town and were all raised Catholic/Lutheran. This is a huge taboo, even though we're part of the little liberal subculture of the town. I heard from a new acquaintance that Joe and some of our other friends are part of an organization that has a large poly group. This came as a shock because this has been on my mind for a while. This does not mean that Joe or my friends are poly since they've never mentioned it, but again, look at where we're from. This is careful territory.
I'm afraid to bring this up to my partner because I don't want to change our relationship or our relationship with Joe. This is a sensitive situation, that's why I'm seeking thoughts and advice.
Thank you in advance!
I've been in a mono relationship with a man (I'm a woman) for 2 1/2 years and it's going beautifully. I've never been in a poly relationship but I've known people who are. A year and a half ago we met a man through friends who we've gotten close to. I'll call him Joe. Joe and I are bisexual, and I think my partner might be as well although he hasn't come out. Last December Joe and I started talking late into the night. I asked my partner if this bothered him and he said it that it didn't. At this point Joe and I are just close friends, but I can't help thinking of expanding the relationship. I keep wanting to at least cuddle him or pinch his nipples on occasion. I sense that he is very attracted to me and possibly my partner. I think my partner is attracted to Joe. It might just be my imagination and fantasies out of control, though!
My partner has joked about the three of us having a "threesome" but he also loves awkward humor so I don't know if it meant anything.
I know I should have brought all of this up to my partner long ago, but we all come from a small Midwestern town and were all raised Catholic/Lutheran. This is a huge taboo, even though we're part of the little liberal subculture of the town. I heard from a new acquaintance that Joe and some of our other friends are part of an organization that has a large poly group. This came as a shock because this has been on my mind for a while. This does not mean that Joe or my friends are poly since they've never mentioned it, but again, look at where we're from. This is careful territory.
I'm afraid to bring this up to my partner because I don't want to change our relationship or our relationship with Joe. This is a sensitive situation, that's why I'm seeking thoughts and advice.
Thank you in advance!