Unfortunately, the OP isn't the only one reacting as though they're threatened by terminology here, which is part of the problem.
Erm, yes, indeed.
(final hint: I didn't bring up the terminology thing)
and you went off on a Wiki-fest. And you admitted to being snarky! This is getting ridiculous, but:So if I am clear you are in an open relatiosnship, not a polyamorous one? Or are you in a mix? Meeting a stranger and having sex that night is not a typical polyamorous relationship.
Take care
Mono
Hi Mono, thanks for your comment. I've learnt that debating definitional issues in lifestyle and sexual preferences isn't a terribly productive way of engaging in conversation, but this is what wikipedia has to say about it:
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Now, if you mean to say that open relationships don't fit your idea of polyamory, then that's something different. You then have to decide for yourself whether or not to consider me "at your level".
Sorry for being snarky here.
Mono simply asked for more clarification on certain points
Meeting a stranger and having sex that night is not a typical polyamorous relationship.
Indeed. It is.A witty mannerism, personality, or behavior that is a combination of sarcasm and cynicism. Usually accepted as a complimentary term. Snark is sometimes mistaken for a snotty or arrogant attitude.
Oh, this is getting ridiculous. He was replying to Mono's post saying that his relationship wasn't a typical polyamorous relationship. It's a fair reply. Seriously....I'm really flabbergasted by the replies I see here. Maybe we should just start a definition thread to hash this out.
I interpret that not as a question for clarification, but as a statement about definitions. Besides, it only refers to one part of my post.
I did say that perhaps I should have ignored that first message, but any attempt I've made to calm down this discussion since then seems only to have had the opposite effect.
And when we then both say there is no common terminology, we don't agree?
By the way, one definition of snarky (to be precise, the second one on Urban Dictionary) is:
Quote:
A witty mannerism, personality, or behavior that is a combination of sarcasm and cynicism. Usually accepted as a complimentary term. Snark is sometimes mistaken for a snotty or arrogant attitude.
I swear, sometimes people don't realize that what was written by others is STILL UP THERE for reference.
It's like saying a person who's married is more monogamous than a person who's dating.
Either way, when someone says they are monogamous you know exactly what you are referring to, when someone says "I'm a swinger" you know exactly what they are referring to, when someone says "I have casual sex" you know exactly what you are referring to.
Ugh.
Please remember that the OP invited us to judge his situation. He asks US how HE "should" feel about his fiancee having a one-night-stand with a co-worker.
Sorry if I butted into a private conversation that was being shouted from roof-top to roof-top, but it's not exactly like I broke the lock on the Secret Journal of Eskludin's Personal Life and splattered it all over the sidewalk.
Peace, esedkudiln
Hope you find some answers
We agree to disagree then. How anyone could misinterpret "I'm monogamous" is beyond me. It doesn't even attempt to describe anything other than a one on one intimate relationship. Allthe other details have nothing to do with saying the word, they are other aspects to the relationship dynamic but not what defines the type of romantic involvement.I disagree. .
Thanks Mono, you too. I've been catching up on some of the posts here and realise you and your loved ones are not in an easy situation. Good luck with that!
I'm finished as this topic has spiralled into negativity.
Take care Ceoli.