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"This isn't some kinda kinky Mormon thing is it?!?"
My reply: "MOTHER PLEASE!"
I never thought that somebody could think to combine "kinky" and "Mormon" like that, I find it quite funny.
"This isn't some kinda kinky Mormon thing is it?!?"
My reply: "MOTHER PLEASE!"
A friend of mine said to me "oh, but I suppose if you were in a real relationship......"
I never thought that somebody could think to combine "kinky" and "Mormon" like that, I find it quite funny.
"I could never do what you do"
Uh, I wasn't asking you to, or advocating that anyone else should. It's not a life for everyone. I get this one 9 times out of 10 from someone who initiated the conversation with me.
"You can't have your cake and eat it too."
"Wouldn't you rather have a commitment?"
Yeah, duh, and I'd rather have even more of 'em than you do, you dolt!
"I could never do what you do"
YES!!! Why do people assume that we're capable of loving 2 parents, 4 grandparents, 3 siblings, and 21 2/3 friends, but incapable of loving more than one lover? Why doesn't it surprise them that I don't get jealous when my friend(s) has/have other friends, but they can't get their heads around the fact that I don't get jealous when my lover(s) has/have other lovers?... Or - as you point out here - why do they think that people are so interchangeable that the death of one can just be covered over by the presence of another?I got:
Well, that's handy. If one dies or leave you, you've got a backup!
Yeah, right... Same with my parents, my three brothers and my friends...
You're hoarding all the guys!
No, I'm not hoarding any of them: they're all still available if you're interested in a relationship with them. It's the monogamous people (or rather, those that expects/require monogamy) who do the hoarding!
Nice one!After breaking up with Raga: Ah, so you're going to be monogamous with Seamus, now?
What? No! We're both poly, what would we be monogamous together? I mean, I guess we don't have other partners right now, but... No, really, just no.
No, but I don't feel like that with my lover(s) either. I'd probably want to make a pot of herb tea, sit down, and ask how she [my lover] has been (and blather on about what I've been up to). But then, I have always put more emphasis on friendship, cosiness, cuddling, and mutual respect and interest in my love relationships than on the sexual side. [I've long suspected that I have an pathologically low libido.]sorry MFFR hopeless at extracting quotes.YES!!! Why do people assume that we're capable of loving 2 parents, 4 grandparents, 3 siblings, and 21 2/3 friends, but incapable of loving more than one lover? Why doesn't it surprise them that I don't get jealous when my friend(s) has/have other friends, but they can't get their heads around the fact that I don't get jealous when my lover(s) has/have other lovers?
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-Do you want to rip the clothes off your grandmother when you haven't seen her for a week and kiss and suck every inch of her body?
To tell the truth, I have certainly been more vulnerable with certain children in my life (none of them biologically my children) than I have with any other person on the planet. At times - after being wounded - that has caused me to build a barrier against being so vulnerable again. But I have always ended up realising that I am making my own life much poorer... and tearing down the barrier again.-Have you been more vulnerable with your parents than you have with any other person on the planet?
If I had children, probably not. But I would miss them if they were sleeping overnight elsewhere - even though I believe that this is a valuable part of a child's growing independence.-Do you spend the night trying to find your children in your bed when they're away and you're alone in a big empty bed?
With my siblings, no. (I'm ecstatic that I live on a different continent than most of them. [I live on a different continent than all of them, but I'm ecstatic only in most cases.]) With friends, I'd admit to a certain uneasiness in that potentially life-changing situation.-Do you have your life and your future invested with your siblings and so become uneasy when other friends come into their lives that could change the whole direction of your life.
No... and no. I want more than snap shots of my friends' lives.-Do you live through the best and worst of those 21 friends of yours everyday, or are you happy with a snap shot of their lives?
I have a pretty vivid imagination - AND I've several times had the experience of losing all contact with some of my dearest friends - so I can imagine that (including in the case of lovers) all too easily.-Is your heart so full of love for all these other people that you love in your life - parents, grandparents, friends (kids are in a bit of a different league, especially when small), that you just can't imagine life without them?
I'm no expert here, but I doubt that ALL monos feel like that. This is not a criticism - and I can't remember many details from the book (years since I read it), but it's there on my shelf and I've been noticing the title recently - but have you ever read the book: "Women Who Love Too Much" by Robin somebody? Maybe (?) what you're describing isn't a general mono thing (I really wouldn't know) but a fixation/co-dependence thing?That is how a mono feels about the person they love, so it's really difficult for them/us (I don't exactly know what I am), to match up the love they feel for their partner to the love they feel for the other people they love in their life.
That is how a mono feels about the person they love, so it's really difficult for them/us (I don't exactly know what I am), to match up the love they feel for their partner to the love they feel for the other people they love in their life.