I was having some "new user" difficulties. Could you please delete the two earlier versions of my post in Poly Relationships Corner? These here are the ones that can be nixed:
http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=35659
http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=35658
http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=35659
http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=35658