Regardless of what you are in, YOU have the power and YOU always make the choice to do anything.~
Any order I follow will be of my own choice to follow, I did after all VOLUNTEER to enlist into the military.~ HOWEVER if I feel an order is unjust, uncalled for, or I just plain refuse to follow it: I have the option to contest it and bring it up with a superior over the head of the superior who issued the order.~
I make the decision what to do at all times with everything in MY life, I take full responsibility for all of MY decisions.~ By following an order, I am making the decision to follow that order of my own CHOICE.~ There is NO choice "out of my hands", every decision I make is of my own choosing, I have no illusions to that, and I take full responsibility for ALL my choices.~
1. Domestic dogs are pack animals who flourish in a system where they know who the leader is. They have long since been bread to "submit" to a human or other pack leader.
2. BDSM is consensual; the fictional situation you are creating (which seems to be causing you to go into a fit of CAPS RAGE) is closer to abduction into slavery, which is illegal... obviously.
Well, good luck with the military with that attitude. I do not date military people, nor would I ever serve (serve! ha!), maybe you're right about questioning orders.
If you're happily going into the navy and ready to follow orders on a daily basis, I do not know what problem you could possibly have with a consensual D/s relationship.
If it happened to you, it wouldn't be consensual given that you have just expressed how negatively you feel about it. Due to the fact that you haven't given your consent, it would not be BDSM, it would be some sort of sexual crime coupled with some sort of violent crime. If you are saying that you simply have no interest in kinky play, that's fine, if you are going further with that and saying that there is no way for that sort of thing to be consensual, then you are horrifically incorrect and more than a little guilty of ignorance,
I don't have a problem with consenting BDSM relationships, if you had fully and completely read any of my first post in this thread you would have known that instead of making unfounded accusations at me.
I don't know if it's me or it's an instinctual thing, but when I see anything anywhere with collars, leashes, chains, ropes, hand-cuffs, restraints, and ESPECIALLY cages used to contain something against its' will this...feeling...wells up deep inside of me a slowly building...rage....a desire almost undeniable to RIP-APART TO SHRED TO COMPLETELY AND UTTERLY DESTROY ALL SUCH DEVICES!!!~~~ AAARRRRRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!~ It is for this reason I can not be around creatures like "pets" in cages for long.~
saying this:
in a thread about BDSM, which is consensual kink, made it seem as though you feel as if kinky play, edgeplay, is not consensual. It was just weird to say that physically harming someone without their explicit consent is a bad thing as if that wasn't a view shared by the vast majority of sane people, and quite a lot of people deemed insane too.
I don't know if it's me or it's an instinctual thing, but when I see anything anywhere with collars, leashes, chains, ropes, hand-cuffs, restraints, and ESPECIALLY cages used to contain something against its' will this...feeling...wells up deep inside of me a slowly building...rage....a desire almost undeniable to RIP-APART TO SHRED TO COMPLETELY AND UTTERLY DESTROY ALL SUCH DEVICES!!!~~~ AAARRRRRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!~ It is for this reason I can not be around creatures like "pets" in cages for long.~
if that wasn't a view shared by the vast majority of sane people, and quite a lot of people deemed insane too.
here i was saying that a lot of people who have been deemed insane would also agree that non consensual violence is wrong
Colors-
one issue I see is this;
There is a HUGE pressure inside of a BDSM community to instill upon everyone the NECESSITY of consent.
The idea that there isn't consent-negates it being BDSM altogether. Without consent, it's not BDSM, it's something altogether different.
So saying....
i'm ok if there is consent but otherwise I have an issue with it....
is like saying I'm ok with BDSM but I'm not ok with abuses that happen in the world that look similar to BDSM but in fact are not.
Which-is confusing in a thread devoted only to BDSM-and absolutely NOT supporting or approving of abuse in any form...
Colors ~ Not that you aren't welcome to post anywhere on this forum, but of BDsm is not something you see for yourself, why comment on the thread at all?
So the topic arose elsewhere that D/s dynamics alter the way in which relationships function.
Certainly true.
I noted that in my life I have worked D/s in around the rest of my life. But some people work their life around their D/s dynamic.
Anyway-I thought I would start a thread on how this interplay effects people. The people in the D/s dynamic and/or metamours etc.
I know this may be a little off-topic, but is there a thread where I can discuss biting and scratching and other such things?~
If I can discuss it here: I like scratching and biting maybe to the point of blood or at least the idea of it during the heat of sex but not as a way to intentionally inflict pain=pleasure, although some VERY LIGHT whipping does sound exiting as foreplay (I actually don't like the idea of me INFLICTING any whipping on any body, but I like the idea of BEING VERY LIGHTLY whipped just to try it out) and not too hard spanking as foreplay and during sex, all of this (except the whipping part) on me and any other partners included, does that mean any thing?~
Just curious.~