Morningglory629
New member
*snorts Coke out of her nose*
Well as long as you aren't snorting coke up your nose...it's all good!
*snorts Coke out of her nose*
My current set of challenges involve "coming out" to myself and finally, to my soon-to-be-ex-husband who has very traditional, monogamist values. All attempts at frank, rational conversation with him on the topic led to more and more mistrust and restrictions and finally, to violent arguing (things thrown, lots of screaming) and verbal abuse.
I am now working on putting myself in a financially stable situation so that I can move with my son to New Orleans--a city more accepting of my "proclivities" where I have friends and am happy.
1. I want a "primary" with whom I am also the "primary."
2. I'm pretty sure I want a non-monogamous but secure, committed relationship with this primary where there are "safe sex circle" rules.
3. I want both myself and the primary to be free to have both sexual intimacy as well as the liberty to love others of each primary's choosing--so long as the primary relationship is not placed at risk.
4. I want ALL parties to be treated with the same amount of respect and love and honesty. The "satellite" relationships might not have as much choice in the workings of my relationship with my "primary," but their feelings will matter. Their rights and value will matter.
I've got a primary partner. We've been together over 2 years and dealing with being poly is one of the easiest of our issues. Even when one or the other of us doesn't have a suitable secondary, it's so nice to just be able to check out hot people on the street together and not feel threatened! We have similar taste in men and women we find attractive, so it's real fun!
Since you mentioned that "humans aren't monogamist animals," may I also recommend Sex at Dawn? It's got tons of data which very convincingly shows humans, like bonobos, are meant to be (promiscuous, poly, swingers) non-monogamous. Pre-agricultural unter/gatherer tribes of 10,000 yrs ago, and present day foraging societies in many countries, share goods/food/child-rearing, as they do their bodies for sex.
I was not a whore. I was not a stupid whore, either.
Oh no, I don't think so!! They would be life-affirming sacred sanctuaries where people could find healing, relieve stress, and just have a good time without being stigmatized. Anyone working there, male, female, or otherwise, would be there of their own free will, not in deference to some abusive pimp, and making money doing what they love. And sex work would not be illegal and all genders and orientations could go and partake of what was available. And of course, all the poly scientists would have worked double fast to find cures for every STI and STD out there, so we'd be all right.I wonder if the world was poly, would the brothels go out of business?
I wonder if the world was poly, would the brothels go out of business?
I want to live in NYCindie's world!
Probably not. Poly is about love. Brothels are about instant gratification of fantasy and need.
You're confusing instant gratification-type need with woundedness.
Does the legalization and open sharing of recipes make candy stores obsolete?
in this accepting world of yours I doubt we would refer to these people as whores anyhow.
Stargazer,
Can one newbie welcome another? Glad to know there are others out there striving for a broader understanding of love, even if it means big changes. The only thing I know so far is staying open to everything is the only way to make sure you don't miss anything. Have fun and keep us updated on your adventure.