GroundedSpirit
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I have got very confused as to the distinction between the two.
So jealousy would be when your lover showed attention to someone and you are in fear of that negatively impacting your own relationship with your lover, while you could be envious of someone else who has a relationship which you perceive as better than your own in some way (even though you don't want to have a relationship with either of them).
Yea - basically right Ciel.
"Jealousy" is coming from a place of fear - some perceived threat.
"Envy" is coming from a place of "want"
Wants are much easier to set aside, to get a more realistic perspective on.
Fear is a different beast ! Reactions to fear are often disproportionate, clouded with emotion etc, especially for those without some history and background on how to handle it productively. Fear is an important component of survival but it can't be allowed free reign, or the consequences can lead to what the alarm was for - failure to survive.
GS