Thread: New and curious
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Old 02-10-2011, 10:00 PM
hurricandrunk hurricandrunk is offline
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: London
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Default New and curious

Right, so new and full of questions :P
i'm not currently in any kind of relationship but previously i've always felt something was missing. i've never been overly concerned about partners flirting with or being attracted to other girls/boys and i've always been fairly clear about the fact as long as their honest i don't mind them seeing others. partly ive always kinda hoped they would! i've always had a problem focussing entirely on one person and have the focus of one person entirely on me.. i've always felt i would be better..sharing for want of a better word...
but i don't want entirely disjointed lives, i want to be an active part of both peoples lives and vice versa, it's one thing telling your partner you dont mind them seeing someone else its another telling them you wanna join in! not to mention finding two people who are compatible with you and each other!

it seems ive added another level of complicated to my life :P

partially my worry is the expectations, i find it hard enough struggling with expectations of one partner, especially sex wise. i have basically no interest and this has been an ongoing problem in previous relationships. it's part of the reason polyamory appeals so much-you get different things from different people.
but if i want an equal relationship with two people, would not joining in bedroomwise make me less of a partner?

and at the very base how do you even go about meeting a couple who want a third? meeting one person is tricky enough XD
I've seen lots of threads on here for meetups etc but i'm not sure i want to just jump in the deep end and meet up with a group of people i don't know at all XD

ummm...end ramble XD thanks!
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