kissapolygrrl
New member
Hello everyone. I'm very new to this forum and selfishly, I joined simply because I deeply need to talk to others and sort out my own thoughts. My husband and I have been exploring polyamory and I know it's who I am but that doesn't stop the fact that I'm deeply struggling with the new relationship that he's involved in. They are *extremely* into each other and I'm feeling so insecure about everything and I simply do NOT know how to deal with it. I know he doesn't love me less...I KNOW this. But I feel so...I don't even know how to explain how I feel. I know a lot of it is me and the crap that's going on in my own head. I have a lot of body image issues and just self esteem issues and he does nothing but support and love me. He's a wonderful partner.
I know part of the issue is that I have always thought that he would figure out that he could do so much better than me. He is smart, funny, unbelievably sexy....and I don't see myself in that way at all. The girl he's dating is very pretty and part of the issue is I know *nothing* about her. We haven't met which kind of breaks one of our...guidelines? if you will?? We have 2 small children and it's imperative for us to know each others partners. They seem to be getting rather serious and it's really bothering me that we haven't met. For the first few weeks, she literally didn't want to meet me and now, they say, it's because it hasn't worked out.
Oh my gosh, I'm totally rambling and just jumping around!! I guess...
1. how do you deal with your partner having a relationship with someone else when you yourself have major insecurities?
2. how do you deal with jealousy over NRE?
3. How do you deal with feeling some misgivings and mistrust over a romantic interest of your partner??
I know part of the issue is that I have always thought that he would figure out that he could do so much better than me. He is smart, funny, unbelievably sexy....and I don't see myself in that way at all. The girl he's dating is very pretty and part of the issue is I know *nothing* about her. We haven't met which kind of breaks one of our...guidelines? if you will?? We have 2 small children and it's imperative for us to know each others partners. They seem to be getting rather serious and it's really bothering me that we haven't met. For the first few weeks, she literally didn't want to meet me and now, they say, it's because it hasn't worked out.
Oh my gosh, I'm totally rambling and just jumping around!! I guess...
1. how do you deal with your partner having a relationship with someone else when you yourself have major insecurities?
2. how do you deal with jealousy over NRE?
3. How do you deal with feeling some misgivings and mistrust over a romantic interest of your partner??