Helo
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Well, it's a board for perverts. I do not find it scary at all. Quite friendly and fun.
The OP does not seem vanilla so I do not get your point.
Relating my own experience with FetLife. I'm (relatively) vanilla.
Well, it's a board for perverts. I do not find it scary at all. Quite friendly and fun.
The OP does not seem vanilla so I do not get your point.
I happen to be poly, within limits, which I've elaborated on in another thread I started.
Not interested in Fetlife at this time, though thank you for suggesting it.
OK, I read your other thread.
To find a Master, I am not sure why you wouldnt try "Facebook for kinky people," aka Fetlife. Or collarme.com. That's another place full of eager so-called Doms. Maybe you'd find a good one. My gf is there and gets about 30 hits a day. She's sub.
I think I have a master, is why.
The whole reason I'm like this now, is become of him. He's melded me into who I am. She's irreplaceable.
No one else can be my Master.
I'd like to find someone worthy of dominating me. I'd like to find someone to fit me that way. Someone to pull my strings and make me move how they want me to move which is also how I need to move (for me). Someone as intense as me. And who can tone me down and make me behave and get a grip. But someone who also knows when I know best.
Sigh. Yeah. Pretty impossible.
But this is the post you wrote when you started this thread:
So, could you make up your mind, please? which is it? Do you have a Master or don't you? Are you looking for one or aren't you? Is it "impossible" or not?
Wow, is that really how you respond to a Moderator suggesting your thread may be in the wrong place and offering to move it for you?Suck me bitches.
D/s is totally a poly subject.
At the very least, this thread should be in the Fireplace, I think. You're not really talking about anything specifically poly here.As I already said, the BDSM thread is a large subject. It is completely logical to start a thread for D/s.
Um, hello? I was the first one to respond to your original post with a link to our Master Thread on BDSM. Scroll back to the first page to see it.Did a tag search and don't see any compelling threads. Perhaps you could link the best one? And we'll see if it's applicable.
Wow, is that really how you respond to a Moderator suggesting your thread may be in the wrong place and offering to move it for you?
This thread has been tagged and it should come up in a search along with the others. That's good enough I should think.There used to be less of a number of threads on similar topics here back when one of the Mods used to merge topics to create Master Threads. There was a reason for that; it makes it easier to find variety of discussions on specific subjects. The Master Thread on BDSM addresses any and all aspects of that subject. If you want to discuss something specific about only D/s, that is the appropriate thread this should be merged with.
Well, I meant IF it gets merged, that is where I would think it would go. Just wondering why it isn't it in the Fireplace, but whatever. Doesn't matter, I guess.This thread has been tagged and it should come up in a search along with the others. That's good enough I should think.
movin' it right along my dear. I will take that as a cue, from a long standing participant here, that this thread doesn't address poly a whole lot, if at all.... going on your word and moving it, as I haven't read the whole thing.Well, I meant IF it gets merged, that is where I would think it would go. Just wondering why it isn't it in the Fireplace, but whatever. Doesn't matter, I guess.
I think it's something some people are naturally skilled at and/or enjoy, but i also think it's possible to "act" dominant in order to please your partner... or satisfy your customer.
That said (that's my latest segue), i don't think there would be any use for dominant partners or Masters/Mistresses, etc. if there wasn't such a demand by submissive types. Perhaps i'm mistaken, but i do not believe being submissive is something you can fake and still enjoy in order to please your partner, due to the "optional" nature of that power-imbalance. Besides, i thought i read that subs outnumber doms by... I don't remember exactly, but it was at least by an order of magnitude or two.
Hey everybody,
I came across an interesting blog and did a little reading about a certain kind of domination which got me curious about something, so I thought I'd post a question here. I know I've read on this forum that people have been, or know others who have been, in D/s relationships that are totally online.
How does that work? I admit that totally online relationships of any kind mystify me for many reasons - but to dom someone that way would seem even more challenging. I am aware that pros do this sort of thing online and charge subs for their various services - and I imagine there is a lot of web-camming going on. But what about real Doms and Dommes who are not pros? In this one blog several Dommes said they would never send nude pictures or explicit videos of themselves to a sub, because that would lower their position (and a sub wouldn't "deserve" it). How do they develop the relationship, dominate, enforce their contracts, etc.? And how would they know the subs are really who they say they are?
If you or anyone you know has an online D/s thing going on that isn't professional, I hope you share the logistics of it and how it is managed and maintained. Just so curious - I had to ask!
Also, do you think anyone gets into domming in order to gain confidence and develop leadership skills, or is it usually just something they are naturally skilled at?
Hey everybody,
How do they develop the relationship, dominate, enforce their contracts, etc.?
And how would they know the subs are really who they say they are?
Also, do you think anyone gets into domming in order to gain confidence and develop leadership skills, or is it usually just something they are naturally skilled at?