Hello all, I am 25 and just celebrated 2 years of marriage with my wife A. We dated for a few years prior to marriage, and first discussed an interest in Poly triads on our second date when she admitted to be bi-curious though had very limited experience.
In the years that followed we had a few encounters of soft play with a very close mutual friend who was female. We cared for her very much, and seemed to fit our relationship perfectly. She contrasted and complimented our relationship very well, but unfortunately moved away for a great job offer. We still keep in touch.
Fast forward to about a year and a half ago. A and I purchase our first home which is far more than we needed, as we were not ready to start a family yet. A is a full time student, and has a full time job. I have a new business still in its infancy. In October of last year a women replied to an ad of ours for a room for rent, we will call her V. We met and hungout a few times to be sure we would all get along, and in an evening full of drinks and laughs we break the news that we are very interested in a poly triad. She much to our amazement admits she finds the concept interesting, but has no interest in women sexually.
Over the next few months we become very close. V and I even take a weekend trip to Chicago for the Red Bull flugtag event. But during this time A and V grow much closer as friends as well, going shopping together, getting nails done, in addition to the time we all spend together at home. V seems to be fitting in very well, and doesn't even mind joining us and our usual friends for skinny dipping in the hot tub. (A and I are not lifestyle, but we always vacation to clothing optional destinations, and we have friends who are very similar.)
Last weekend everything changed. Things got a little heated in the hot tub, and while I am going down on A, I jokingly look back to V and asked if she wanted any? Without skipping a beat she not only says yes, but takes a very dominate role in what ended up being an amazing passionate night between the three of us. Suddenly the intimate relationship has caught up with the emotional relationship they have been building for months. And frankly, they can't keep their hands off of eachother. So much so that a few days ago, I was informed at breakfast that I slept right through the two of them having some late night fun!
V exclaims she never thought this would ever happen, but she cares for us both very much and wants to pursue this very seriously. A agrees, and so far has been much more open to V and I's relationship than I ever thought possible in such a short time. In part I assume because of her own NRE with V.
BUT, yesterday when I got home from work I was texting A some sexy thoughts. She replied that she had some ideas for alone time with me that night, but that if V was home I had her blessing to indulge without her. Not that this is something we are required to ask, but she wanted to reassure me it was perfectly fine. V got home shortly after, and when I told her I was getting in the shower she asked to join me. I enjoy play time in the shower, with each of them as well as together, and they too have their time without me. A has been home when V and I showered alone previously, and this was no issue.
When A got home and heard the shower running, with no one around she figured we must both be in there. So A being the cute and funny women she is, snuck in to scare us as she usually does to me. She ripped the current back at a very intimate moment, V and I like deer in headlights. Not because we had done anything we were not supposed to, but A had scared the crap out of us at a very climactic moment. Amy announced she was home, and headed downstairs to do some laundry.
After I dried off I went downstairs to talk with her about our day, as we usually do. But immediately I knew something was wrong. We talked a lot about it last night, and she assured me she was not upset and was still very committed to pursuing this poly relationship. She said she was just in a bit of surprise, and was overwhelmed with some emotions she wasn't sure how to cope with. I assured her it was completely normal, and we continued to talk about it for a bit more before cuddling up for bed.
A and I have such a strong relationship, I am not even sure how to describe it. We disagree, but never yell. We have been hurt, but never push each other away or withdraw. Our communication is about as good as anyone could ever hope for. I am certain we can overcome this, and I have already read a few articles that discuss these types of issues in poly relationships, and how to deal with them. I intend to talk with her about it more this evening, and introduce her to this forum. So fellow poly friends, have any of you ever dealt with this? Any advice?
Thanks,
C
In the years that followed we had a few encounters of soft play with a very close mutual friend who was female. We cared for her very much, and seemed to fit our relationship perfectly. She contrasted and complimented our relationship very well, but unfortunately moved away for a great job offer. We still keep in touch.
Fast forward to about a year and a half ago. A and I purchase our first home which is far more than we needed, as we were not ready to start a family yet. A is a full time student, and has a full time job. I have a new business still in its infancy. In October of last year a women replied to an ad of ours for a room for rent, we will call her V. We met and hungout a few times to be sure we would all get along, and in an evening full of drinks and laughs we break the news that we are very interested in a poly triad. She much to our amazement admits she finds the concept interesting, but has no interest in women sexually.
Over the next few months we become very close. V and I even take a weekend trip to Chicago for the Red Bull flugtag event. But during this time A and V grow much closer as friends as well, going shopping together, getting nails done, in addition to the time we all spend together at home. V seems to be fitting in very well, and doesn't even mind joining us and our usual friends for skinny dipping in the hot tub. (A and I are not lifestyle, but we always vacation to clothing optional destinations, and we have friends who are very similar.)
Last weekend everything changed. Things got a little heated in the hot tub, and while I am going down on A, I jokingly look back to V and asked if she wanted any? Without skipping a beat she not only says yes, but takes a very dominate role in what ended up being an amazing passionate night between the three of us. Suddenly the intimate relationship has caught up with the emotional relationship they have been building for months. And frankly, they can't keep their hands off of eachother. So much so that a few days ago, I was informed at breakfast that I slept right through the two of them having some late night fun!
V exclaims she never thought this would ever happen, but she cares for us both very much and wants to pursue this very seriously. A agrees, and so far has been much more open to V and I's relationship than I ever thought possible in such a short time. In part I assume because of her own NRE with V.
BUT, yesterday when I got home from work I was texting A some sexy thoughts. She replied that she had some ideas for alone time with me that night, but that if V was home I had her blessing to indulge without her. Not that this is something we are required to ask, but she wanted to reassure me it was perfectly fine. V got home shortly after, and when I told her I was getting in the shower she asked to join me. I enjoy play time in the shower, with each of them as well as together, and they too have their time without me. A has been home when V and I showered alone previously, and this was no issue.
When A got home and heard the shower running, with no one around she figured we must both be in there. So A being the cute and funny women she is, snuck in to scare us as she usually does to me. She ripped the current back at a very intimate moment, V and I like deer in headlights. Not because we had done anything we were not supposed to, but A had scared the crap out of us at a very climactic moment. Amy announced she was home, and headed downstairs to do some laundry.
After I dried off I went downstairs to talk with her about our day, as we usually do. But immediately I knew something was wrong. We talked a lot about it last night, and she assured me she was not upset and was still very committed to pursuing this poly relationship. She said she was just in a bit of surprise, and was overwhelmed with some emotions she wasn't sure how to cope with. I assured her it was completely normal, and we continued to talk about it for a bit more before cuddling up for bed.
A and I have such a strong relationship, I am not even sure how to describe it. We disagree, but never yell. We have been hurt, but never push each other away or withdraw. Our communication is about as good as anyone could ever hope for. I am certain we can overcome this, and I have already read a few articles that discuss these types of issues in poly relationships, and how to deal with them. I intend to talk with her about it more this evening, and introduce her to this forum. So fellow poly friends, have any of you ever dealt with this? Any advice?
Thanks,
C