bleeucheeze
New member
My spouse and I are going to open our marriage soon, but I want to be able to set guidelines to start. I know that things change as life goes on and we settle into the open arrangement, but I would love to hear advice/tips/tricks for couples just starting out.
I suppose I should start by explaining the reasoning behind our open marriage is because my spouse came out to me as trans a while ago, and has introduced some sexual fetishes that were previously suppressed. I have no problem accepting the fetishes or that she is trans (mtf), but I have explained that my own sexual appetite does not go hand in hand with hers. I simply have no desire to do what she needs sexually (think extremely kinky), which has put us in a little sexual predicament. We love each other, we want to remain married and raise our children together and spend time together as a couple. But sexually, we are throwing in the towel and want to open the marriage up.
I'd love to hear similar stories if you have them, or advice on how to keep this uncomplicated. Obviously, we are newbies and I have all sorts of what-ifs floating around in my head, but it's something we both think will be beneficial.
Bless me with your knowledge!
I suppose I should start by explaining the reasoning behind our open marriage is because my spouse came out to me as trans a while ago, and has introduced some sexual fetishes that were previously suppressed. I have no problem accepting the fetishes or that she is trans (mtf), but I have explained that my own sexual appetite does not go hand in hand with hers. I simply have no desire to do what she needs sexually (think extremely kinky), which has put us in a little sexual predicament. We love each other, we want to remain married and raise our children together and spend time together as a couple. But sexually, we are throwing in the towel and want to open the marriage up.
I'd love to hear similar stories if you have them, or advice on how to keep this uncomplicated. Obviously, we are newbies and I have all sorts of what-ifs floating around in my head, but it's something we both think will be beneficial.
Bless me with your knowledge!