Oh geez, DH, why so nasty? Everyone's situations are different. Answers are based on the vibe we get from someone who's posting. The OP wants to know if there's something wrong with feeling a little less desire to initiate sex with her husband and we said, "no, of course not." Then we started joking around about fantasizing and you say we're not conforming to poly "preachings." What is unloving? The OP wanted some reassurance that she's okay. Lighten up, wouldja?
Independent solo polyamorist seeking lover-friends willing to invest in friendship, companionship, and love, but without a need for partnership.
Never confuse commitment with exclusivity, love with ownership, nor sex with intimacy!
For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring.
~ Carl Sagan