Oh geez, DH, why so nasty? Everyone's situations are different. Answers are based on the vibe we get from someone who's posting. The OP wants to know if there's something wrong with feeling a little less desire to initiate sex with her husband and we said, "no, of course not." Then we started joking around about fantasizing and you say we're not conforming to poly "preachings." What is unloving? The OP wanted some reassurance that she's okay. Lighten up, wouldja?
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Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me. ~Bryan Ferry
"Love is that condition in which another person's happiness is essential to your own." ~Robert Heinlein