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Old 08-28-2011, 06:46 PM
MichelleZed MichelleZed is offline
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Hello!

I am a woman in her late 20's and I've been with my husband for 8 years, married for two. We have an open, not polyamorous relationship... or at least, that's what we've been calling it so far.

But the thing is, lately it feels like we've been veering in a poly direction, maybe, and I just want to come and hang out here for awhile and read some threads and just... do some thinking.

While my husband only has a very occasional one-night stand with a girl, and is happy with that, it's become different for me. I had one-time sex with a guy 7 months ago that turned out not to be one-time at all. We keep coming back to each other. I have to admit that, by now, there are strong feelings involved and I just have no idea where this is going. It's all kind of stressful, overwhelming, and undefined.

I am 5 months pregnant now with my husband's and my first child, a son. It's a very exciting but scary time. My sometime-lover hasn't minded my pregnancy and we still get together to have sex every once in while. We've been in and out of town all summer so we haven't gotten together much, but when we do, it's such a joy to me.

I don't even know if things will continue with this new guy. He's single right now, but actively looking for a serious girlfriend, maybe someone who he can marry and have kids with. I was just supposed to be something fun, a way for him to pass the time while he was single, but something that could end anytime when someone better came along. I was fine with that, because he was just supposed to be something fun for me, too. But he isn't anymore, because somewhere along the way I sort of fell in love.

The thought of him getting together with someone else makes me feel sick, because it would all just be cut off suddenly, like what we had for 7 months was nothing and didn't even count. I wouldn't be able to kiss him again, smell his smell, just like that, because of a new girl. I'd be so happy that he found love, but at the same time, I would feel like I'd had a break-up. But there was never anything official between us to break up.

New guy is out of town right now, having a holiday with a girl who he's interested in. We've talked every day for months, but I haven't heard from him in days. I guess his trip is going well.

It's possible that I've just joined this forum at the point where things with this other guy are ending. I guess I needed to write to some people who'd understand the grief I'm feeling. I only have a few friends who know about this, and they just don't get why I'd feel so heart-broken over "losing" this guy when I still have my husband.

Anyway, I've learned that it's possible to be in love with two people at once. My feelings for this guy haven't affected my strong, loving bond with my husband. I guess I'm poly, and it just hasn't every come up before.

So. Hi.
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