I am the member of the mod staff with the longest tenure. Indeed, I recruited the other current members of the mod staff Way Back When, as I was site admin for a long stretch. I wrote the site guidelines and am still responsible for updating them as we encounter different situations which seem to require some commentary or further clarification.
Of the time I have available for spending here, most of it goes into merely skimming threads to check for spam, trolls, and potential hotspots. Because of that, many people only catch glimpses of me posting here and there; rarely am I involved in a discussion for any length of time. Hence, seeing me post has often been akin to seeing a ghost--here for a moment and then gone from sight, seemingly to never return.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.