Originally Posted by Tristania
I was able to set aside my real self that evening and take on a persona that could handle the situation better...
If that's what it takes to make your husband happy, I don't believe that this relationship is salvagable. I'm sorry to be so harsh. I realize that this is your marriage I'm talking about. But you need to be able to be yourself for a relationship to work.
As to whether you can accept your husband with others or not, that is something you will need to look within yourself for the answer. But you
should never ever ever have sex with somebody you don't want to, for any reason. If your husband wants you to, then there is a profound lack of empathy on his part.