Originally Posted by marksbabygirl
Not inferior, insignificant, lesser, lower, minor, trivial or any of those. Simply, an auxiliary who has less time in my life due to the fact that I am a busy woman with a full life.
...derby doesn't get equal time with my husband and kids. My friends don't get equal time with my husband and kids. An auxiliary/secondary/supplementary person wouldn't get equal time - and I wouldn't expect equal time in their lives either.
It doesn't mean the people in my life are less important - it just means that I don't have a lot of time to give them.
For me.. .secondary isn't a bad thing. Its just a fact of time.
BTW, as a pagan who likes to read the Bible for fun, I recently found this deep in the Old Testament:
I found a family where a guy had 2 wives (1 Samuel 1):
"Whenever the day came for Elkanah to sacrifice, he would give portions of the meat to his wife Peninnah and to all her sons and daughters. But to Hannah he gave a double portion because he loved her, and the LORD had closed her womb."
Interestingly, Peninnah means, "second."
"Because the LORD had closed Hannah’s womb, her rival kept provoking her in order to irritate her."
Anyway, I've been wanting to post about that for a couple weeks. Just thought I'd throw it in there. Written about 2600 years ago...
The notes say Elkanah probably took a second wife to provide children.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
Mags (poly, F, 61) loving miss pixi (poly, F, 39) since January 2009, living together since 2013
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