I went to dictionary.com and thesaurus.com and looked up the actual definition of "secondary" and its synonyms.
Depending on what point of view you want to take, secondary CAN be seen as less than or less desirable.
sec·ond·ar·y [sek-uhn-der-ee] Show IPA adjective, noun, plural -ar·ies.
1.next after the first in order, place, time, etc.
2.belonging or pertaining to a second order, division, stage, period, rank, grade, etc.
3.(in scholarly studies) pertaining to or being a derived or derivative account, an evaluation of original data, etc.; not primary or original, as in secondary source; secondary research .
4.of minor or lesser importance; subordinate; auxiliary.
Main Entry: secondary
Part of Speech: adjective
Definition: subordinate; less important
Synonyms: accessory, alternate, auxiliary, backup, bush-league, collateral, consequential, contingent, dependent, dinky, extra, inconsiderable, inferior, insignificant, lesser, lower, minor, minor-league, petty, relief, reserve, second, second-rate, small, small-fry, small-time, subject, subservient, subsidiary, substract, supporting, tributary, trivial, under, unimportant
Antonyms: first-class, first-rate, important, primary, superior
So based on those definitions of what a secondary is... yeah - those are not very pleasant.
In case you're wondering - I like to make sure we're all working with the same definitions before I give an opinion.
I prefer the above bolded & underlined definitions. That's how I use secondary.
Not inferior, insignificant, lesser, lower, minor, trivial or any of those. Simply, an auxiliary who has less time in my life due to the fact that I am a busy woman with a full life.
I can and do make time for things that are important to me. I am making time to go to Kamloops this weekend for derby - its important to me. If someone were to come into my life who was important to me - I'd make time. I do for my friends. I do for my family.
But derby doesn't get equal time with my husband and kids. My friends don't get equal time with my husband and kids. An auxiliary/secondary/supplementary person wouldn't get equal time - and I wouldn't expect equal time in their lives either.
It doesn't mean the people in my life are less important - it just means that I don't have a lot of time to give them.
For me.. .secondary isn't a bad thing. Its just a fact of time.