This is such a wonderful thread. JRiver, I commend you! Mari, it seems like you're on the road to being truly happy. I've been down and out over the last couple of months. (Had a mini melt down and have been out of work since) and in that time I've re-evaluated things. Realized what's truly important to me and God I've never been happier.
You really are in control of your own happiness. You can't stress the things that you have no control over, so don't worry about them. The universe will unfold as it should.