It is most definitely not for the feint of heart!
But whenever he and I talk about just closing that part of our life out, both of us realize that we like that part, maybe we just pick the wrong people? Give too much up front and then they expect everything?? Anyway, don't want to 'hijack' the post, perhaps I should start my own blog
But in our personal experience, it has definitely been the women who have had a harder time with the 'poly' idea