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Old 08-26-2011, 09:33 PM
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It sounds like you've been causing yourself a LOT of hurt in the process.
This is true MorningTwilight! But I've only recently admitted it to myself.

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It might not hurt to ask some questions and let husband and wife talk for awhile, ask some more questions, and so on, until you believe you understand where their heads and hearts are at. Then it's your turn, and after they've seen that you're willing to take the time to listen, they may be more receptive to your words.
I can see this as a way to ease into the conversation and start the ball rolling. Also using H.A.L.T. and "I" language are examples of the types of concrete tools that I lacked. And your sample script helped me to start thinking about how to formulate the questions. Thank you for pointing the tools and writing out the script.

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DO read the "Secondary Bill of Rights" at the xeromag website.
For those of you that haven't seen it yet, it's located here http://www.xeromag.com/fvsecondary.html#bor
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